SO Broke It Off, Due to His Family....UPDATE!
Anyways Sat SO was having a welcome home party for his daughter. I ask his friend B, at the house if she wanted help cooking. She ignored me. I then ask his cousin G if she needed help and I got go away. So I went into our room and watched tv with my boys.
We get to the park and none of the kids wanted to play with mine, so they played alone. I got ignored. As they were cleaning up I started having severe chest pains. I called my mom and she came and got my boys. I dont want them knowing my heart is acting up.
SO said hed take me to the er. His friends and family were po. Two hrs later and me in severe pain he was able to take me.
I checked out fine was told it was stres.
We woke up in the morning did our thing, then he took me home. Said i love yous and hugged. Thirty mints later when he got home, I got a text that it was over.
It was hurtful, but ill be ok. I guess.
What do you think?
UPDATE
So thanku so much ladies for your support and love. Im heading to the spa tomm, my guy friends are taking me there, shopping, manis pedis, and dinner. Happy happy!
As for the negative comments, i had no money for a cab whatever. I got shorted out of a hundred in my cs this mth. smh And my disability hasnt gone in yet.
He called me yesterday and said he felt stuck in the middle between his family and friends drama and me. He said give a wk or two, let it blow over then wed get back together. I said get a life and go elsewhere I am done.
So yeah hes regretting it and upset. i am done.
thank u and hugs ladies!
Quoting Paperfishies:I think something is missing to the story.
Why doesn't his family like you? I have some major trailer trash, piece of shit family but they don't treat people like shit for no reason. So what is there reason?
Honestly, i think it is kind of needy/over dramatic/coincidental that you started having chest pains at his families event and he had to leave early to take you to the ER. Why wouldn't you have just left with your kids and had your mom drop you off at the ER?
You are better off with out him! You will find someone who is better for you!
Quoting F_Stathouse:
I have Aspergers, ocd, ptsd, and I am wellbutrin, a painkiller, anti inflammatory, lyrica, and three other meds plus vitamens.
I know i have poor social skills, but i do try hard to get and join. I am deaf and blind on my left side too, so its a bit hard to hear everybody.
If it gets to be too much, I say excuse give me ten, ill be back and i walk off.
I just started ordering my food at places, be able to go to a grocery store alone, drive, talk to people, hug, etc.
Im getting there lol. I push myself daily to be normal. :-)
Quoting veganistic:Do you have a lot of anxiety? I'm not asking you this to be mean, I promise, but are you difficult to be around, maybe? Do you take things the wrong way? Get offended easily? Oversensitive?
Those are all part of anxiety, so I'm just asking. Having severe heart pains from stress is not "normal".
I have a family member that is very, very difficult to be around because we have to walk on eggshells, and she's unintentionally offensive at times, over sensitive, anxious, and super controlling and fussy about things you would never even think to walk on eggshells about! of course, we know she doesn't mean to be, and we are not jerks, so we don't tell her any of that.
she takes medication that does help her manage her anxiety and stress, and in turn makes her more bearable.
Even though he knew in the beginning, he might have thought he'd be okay with it, but than as the time went on he realized he couldnt handle it?
Quoting F_Stathouse:
He knew in the beginning (now shouldnt be a problem)and all was fine until his family and friends started their drama.
Healthy how healthy, you cant simply make things disappear.
Quoting Paperfishies:
I truly am not trying to be a bitch...
But that is a LOT to deal with, not everyone can be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness, it takes a very patient and very forgiving person. It may have decided it was all too much for him and bailed...5 months is still a new relationship, you're still getting used to the person, you're still feeling the waters.
Perhaps take this time to work on you and get healthy.
Quoting F_Stathouse:
I have Aspergers, ocd, ptsd, and I am wellbutrin, a painkiller, anti inflammatory, lyrica, and three other meds plus vitamens.
I know i have poor social skills, but i do try hard to get and join. I am deaf and blind on my left side too, so its a bit hard to hear everybody.
If it gets to be too much, I say excuse give me ten, ill be back and i walk off.
I just started ordering my food at places, be able to go to a grocery store alone, drive, talk to people, hug, etc.
Im getting there lol. I push myself daily to be normal. :-)
Quoting veganistic:
Do you have a lot of anxiety? I'm not asking you this to be mean, I promise, but are you difficult to be around, maybe? Do you take things the wrong way? Get offended easily? Oversensitive?
Those are all part of anxiety, so I'm just asking. Having severe heart pains from stress is not "normal".
I have a family member that is very, very difficult to be around because we have to walk on eggshells, and she's unintentionally offensive at times, over sensitive, anxious, and super controlling and fussy about things you would never even think to walk on eggshells about! of course, we know she doesn't mean to be, and we are not jerks, so we don't tell her any of that.
she takes medication that does help her manage her anxiety and stress, and in turn makes her more bearable.
My family or friends translate conversations for me when we get together.
I ask people all the time if i dont get smthng, or dont understand. I have also learned to laugh at myself and slide by.
My friend came up behind me, grab my wrist and I started freaking out yesterday. He felt so bad, he ended up holding me till I calmed down. Later on we laughed about it.
I have friends since kindergarten and such. That have been through it all with me.
Thank you Gdluck to you too!
Quoting kidlover2:
:( I know how some of that is. I have APD and PTSD. I was accused of being antisocial, weird, and touchy for a long time. I eventually just started talking about it and poking fun at myself for not hearing things correctly and or flipping out when someone touched me. Eventually people understand and loosen up around you and the ones that don't aren't really worth hanging around. :)I'm thrilled with how many friends I have made in the last 5 years and everybody knows to not touch me and to repeat themselves 25 times. :) I found a marvelous SO that makes sure that all of my important phone calls are when he can translate for me and is very protective of me in public so I don't get brushed against. Good luck! Keep going!
Quoting F_Stathouse:
I have Aspergers, ocd, ptsd, and I am wellbutrin, a painkiller, anti inflammatory, lyrica, and three other meds plus vitamens.
I know i have poor social skills, but i do try hard to get and join. I am deaf and blind on my left side too, so its a bit hard to hear everybody.
If it gets to be too much, I say excuse give me ten, ill be back and i walk off.
I just started ordering my food at places, be able to go to a grocery store alone, drive, talk to people, hug, etc.
Im getting there lol. I push myself daily to be normal. :-)
Quoting veganistic:Do you have a lot of anxiety? I'm not asking you this to be mean, I promise, but are you difficult to be around, maybe? Do you take things the wrong way? Get offended easily? Oversensitive?
Those are all part of anxiety, so I'm just asking. Having severe heart pains from stress is not "normal".
I have a family member that is very, very difficult to be around because we have to walk on eggshells, and she's unintentionally offensive at times, over sensitive, anxious, and super controlling and fussy about things you would never even think to walk on eggshells about! of course, we know she doesn't mean to be, and we are not jerks, so we don't tell her any of that.
she takes medication that does help her manage her anxiety and stress, and in turn makes her more bearable.
Am I wrong for not giving a F**** that hes dying?
- F_Stathouse
on Jan. 17, 2013 at 12:02 PM