SO Broke It Off, Due to His Family....UPDATE!

[F_Stathouse]

So SO broke it off Sunday with me. We were having issues with his family and friends saying mean things to me and starting fights. Not me at all, I normally walk off when they start. Which resulted in me being told I am not sociable.

Anyways Sat SO was having a welcome home party for his daughter. I ask his friend B, at the house if she wanted help cooking. She ignored me. I then ask his cousin G if she needed help and I got go away. So I went into our room and watched tv with my boys.

We get to the park and none of the kids wanted to play with mine, so they played alone. I got ignored. As they were cleaning up I started having severe chest pains. I called my mom and she came and got my boys. I dont want them knowing my heart is acting up.

SO said hed take me to the er. His friends and family were po. Two hrs later and me in severe pain he was able to take me.
I checked out fine was told it was stres.

We woke up in the morning did our thing, then he took me home. Said i love yous and hugged. Thirty mints later when he got home, I got a text that it was over.

It was hurtful, but ill be ok. I guess.

What do you think?

UPDATE

So thanku so much ladies for your support and love. Im heading to the spa tomm, my guy friends are taking me there, shopping, manis pedis, and dinner. Happy happy!

As for the negative comments, i had no money for a cab whatever. I got shorted out of a hundred in my cs this mth. smh And my disability hasnt gone in yet.

He called me yesterday and said he felt stuck in the middle between his family and friends drama and me. He said give a wk or two, let it blow over then wed get back together. I said get a life and go elsewhere I am done.

So yeah hes regretting it and upset. i am done.

thank u and hugs ladies!

[AMBG825]

 I think he was a coward. A real man would have told you to your face and a real man would have stuck up for you.

 

Find someone who has already cut the umbilical cord.

[veganistic]

Well it sounds like you will be better off without him anyway! I hope your next guy is more compatible, and his loved ones more understanding and kind. Hugs!

Quoting F_Stathouse:

I have Aspergers, ocd, ptsd, and I am wellbutrin, a painkiller, anti inflammatory, lyrica, and three other meds plus vitamens.



I know i have poor social skills, but i do try hard to get and join. I am deaf and blind on my left side too, so its a bit hard to hear everybody.



If it gets to be too much, I say excuse give me ten, ill be back and i walk off.



I just started ordering my food at places, be able to go to a grocery store alone, drive, talk to people, hug, etc.

Im getting there lol. I push myself daily to be normal. :-)

Quoting veganistic:

Do you have a lot of anxiety? I'm not asking you this to be mean, I promise, but are you difficult to be around, maybe? Do you take things the wrong way? Get offended easily? Oversensitive? 

Those are all part of anxiety, so I'm just asking. Having severe heart pains from stress is not "normal".

I have a family member that is very, very difficult to be around because we have to walk on eggshells, and she's unintentionally offensive at times, over sensitive, anxious, and super controlling and fussy about things you would never even think to walk on eggshells about! of course, we know she doesn't mean to be, and we are not jerks, so we don't tell her any of that.

she takes medication that does help her manage her anxiety and stress, and in turn makes her more bearable. 

[Mrsfarr]

My husband's family was like that. Instead of him leaving me, he left them. Told them all that he loved me and if they had a problem with it, too bad.

Maybe it's because that's how mine went, I feel like your situation should have ended the same.. Dude is obviously not that great if he'd let people treat you that way and then do the same.

[crazymom21]

I say good riddance! What a slim ball.

[Gwynyth]

He sounds like a jerk. They sound like a whole family of jerks!

[Weeser1]

Morning, I have some similar things that go on & married 6 years. Husband does not help with it, much. Iam Grandma to 11 now. It's very hard to just shut out toxic behaviors. Causes alot of heart ache, more ways than one ! So sorry it causes you health problems. But it shows also what the man is made of...and certainly a very bad way to teach thier children to behave. They are the ones missing out ,being so rude to you & your children. There are much better men out there. If  I was to review life, and my sons are 36 & 40,

 I would date casually & not get too involved . I wasted alot of time on a loser that caused me grief & time away from my kids when they were young. Time that can not be replaced. Just sayin. Hold your self esteem high. Because you are worth it .

 

[emmy526]

you're better off without that piece of shit in your life, and his worthless pieces of shit family, too...you don't need that kind of bs to deal with, esp if you have heart problems...

[LoveMyLos]

Well sounds like you dodged a huge bullet.

[SpiritedWitch]

He sent you a TEXT to tell you it was over??? Insensitive prick.

If he was constantly ignoring how his family was treating you and not standing up for you to them, I know it hurts, but you are probably better off. Now you are free to find someone who will put you first. 

[RLT2]

I think you guys moved way too fast. Didn't you move in there almost immediately because of an injury or something? Sounds like you're better off. Chalk it up to a close call and move on.