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Ugh the longer the year goes on the more I think this poor boy in my class has crappy parents. Its really eating at me and its become an internal obsession.  I cant seem to let it go.  The boy is in 1st grade.  He is also in before and after school care.  He is in the school building from 6am to 6pm 5 days a week and has a nanny all day on saturday.  Yes he is clean, wears nice clothes, is dropped of in a 2013 mercedes....

I still think he is being neglected.  I know its not a crime, but it should be.  

Update-  I talked to the school social worker last week.  The final straw for me was the boys sister was home sick so mom took 2 days off.  Still left the boy in after school care from 6:30 am till 6pm and mom was not sick.  I told her (the social worker) some of my concerns, that he cries easily (if I tell him to pick up the crayons he just dropped he will start sobbing), that he has poor manual dexterity and he is behind in language.  

She said it isnt neglect of course, and I knew that.  She did say we can find him a mentor so that some of his after school time can be spent one on one with a "foster grandparent" from the senior center next door.  They are also going to check to see if he needs speech or occupational therapy.  

by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:05 PM
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AutymsMommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:05 AM
The obvious reason would be that they... work? Maybe even on Saturday?
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Due9
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:06 AM

Excellent point and I have to agree.

Quoting Bax:

What if he was dropped off in a 1993 mini van, wore hand-me-downs, and spent Sat with a babysitter while mom worked as a waitress? Would you think he was neglected or would you say "His Mom works sooo hard to provide for this child"? 


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AutymsMommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:07 AM
This does not apply to all salary positions... our even most.



Quoting ditsyjo:

 



anything more than40 hours  a week is overtime and can not be forced. It can be strongly recommended as in you will not make a promotion if you don't show the commit ment... but it can not be forced legally... there fore both parents working 6 days a week = a choice. and it is their choice to make but...



Quoting Schauseil:

you are assuming they pick their own work hours. Would you have them quit their job because they work on saturday?




Quoting ditsyjo:



 




may I point out with out coming over as rude that if they can afford to hire a nanny they are doing more than is " necessary" to provide for their family. they are maintaining a life style with may be important to some people but it is not necessary




Quoting Schauseil:

um, no. You have no idea what his parents or parent is doing to provide for him. While most ppl would love to give their children more attention, job restrictions don't always allow that.



 




 







 



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boys2men2soon
by Silver Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:08 AM

Poor kid :(  

NDADanceMom
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:08 AM


They dont work saturdays, they just want a day to have a no kid fun day.  Ive heard her talk about it.  As far as the rest of the week, they both work an hour and a half away from home (in the same city).  All of their friends and family are up there too  as I discovered last week when we tried to get someone to come get him when he was sick.  I have no idea why they dont live where they work and socialize. 

Quoting Schauseil:

you are assuming they pick their own work hours. Would you have them quit their job because they work on saturday?


Quoting ditsyjo:



may I point out with out coming over as rude that if they can afford to hire a nanny they are doing more than is " necessary" to provide for their family. they are maintaining a life style with may be important to some people but it is not necessary


Quoting Schauseil:

um, no. You have no idea what his parents or parent is doing to provide for him. While most ppl would love to give their children more attention, job restrictions don't always allow that.







JTE11
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:09 AM

I would tend to agree with you.  There is no substitute for a parent's presence, even if it means moving into a smaller house, getting a less-demanding job, or driving a cheaper car.  Not everyone has the leeway to live more cheaply but it's sad when the poeople with the leeway to simplify choose things over their kids.

NDADanceMom
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:11 AM


Quoting AutymsMommy:

The obvious reason would be that they... work? Maybe even on Saturday?

If that was the end of the story I could understand, but no.  They chose to live an hour and a half away from their work, so 3 hours of it is commute time.  (to a not bad area that would certainly be fine to live in).  Saturday is a fun adults only day for mom and dad.  They also work out together during the week and leave kids in care during that time. 

AutymsMommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:13 AM
Very sad, but if his needs are met, I don't see neglect. Butthole parents, yes.


Quoting NDADanceMom:


Quoting AutymsMommy:

The obvious reason would be that they... work? Maybe even on Saturday?

If that was the end of the story I could understand, but no.  They chose to live an hour and a half away from their work, so 3 hours of it is commute time.  (to a not bad area that would certainly be fine to live in).  Saturday is a fun adults only day for mom and dad.  They also work out together during the week and leave kids in care during that time. 


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ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:13 AM

 

legally speaking it does though I'm sure a lot of bosses make their employees feel like it doesn't


 

Quoting AutymsMommy:

This does not apply to all salary positions... our even most.



Quoting ditsyjo:

 



anything more than40 hours  a week is overtime and can not be forced. It can be strongly recommended as in you will not make a promotion if you don't show the commit ment... but it can not be forced legally... there fore both parents working 6 days a week = a choice. and it is their choice to make but...



Quoting Schauseil:

you are assuming they pick their own work hours. Would you have them quit their job because they work on saturday?




Quoting ditsyjo:



 




may I point out with out coming over as rude that if they can afford to hire a nanny they are doing more than is " necessary" to provide for their family. they are maintaining a life style with may be important to some people but it is not necessary




Quoting Schauseil:

um, no. You have no idea what his parents or parent is doing to provide for him. While most ppl would love to give their children more attention, job restrictions don't always allow that.



 




 




 



 




 

AutymsMommy
by Ruby Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:16 AM
No. Lol.



Quoting ditsyjo:

 



legally speaking it does though I'm sure a lot of bosses make their employees feel like it doesn't




 



Quoting AutymsMommy:

This does not apply to all salary positions... our even most.





Quoting ditsyjo:



 





anything more than40 hours  a week is overtime and can not be forced. It can be strongly recommended as in you will not make a promotion if you don't show the commit ment... but it can not be forced legally... there fore both parents working 6 days a week = a choice. and it is their choice to make but...





Quoting Schauseil:

you are assuming they pick their own work hours. Would you have them quit their job because they work on saturday?






Quoting ditsyjo:





 






may I point out with out coming over as rude that if they can afford to hire a nanny they are doing more than is " necessary" to provide for their family. they are maintaining a life style with may be important to some people but it is not necessary






Quoting Schauseil:

um, no. You have no idea what his parents or parent is doing to provide for him. While most ppl would love to give their children more attention, job restrictions don't always allow that.





 






 






 





 








 



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