Parents buying things for adult kids

[lillypie2]

I was just having a conversation this morning at work with a couple co workers and one of them was saying how there is a pair of boots she wants and she told her mom..I started laughing and was saying how there are times I'm like oh I really want this and my parents will buy it for me and be like oh it's your birthday present evening it is a few months early, or if they know there is something I really want but won't by it for myself because of the cost or something they will get it for me. It doesn't happen all the time but it does happen. I would do the same for my kids and if my parents ever needed anything I would be there to help any way I could,. Well another co worker that was sitting there told us that was sad and that we were mooching off our parents and that once your an adult you shouldn't get anything from your parents but should be there to give them whatever they need. He said he doesn't get birthday gifts nothing any time from his mom and was told at 13 when he needed new shoes that he better get a job then..to me that is sad. So it got me wondering how many of you have parents that will buy you things or do more of you have parents that say you are an adult I'm not buying anything for you.

[OxbAbIebxO]

I don't ask my mom for things if I need them I will buy them myself. She does buy me things though just because. We also get our nails done every 2 weeks together and she pays for both of us at her insistence.

[idareyou]

My mom is more like your parents - she won't usually just buy me something at random, but she will buy something and say it's my birthday present or something. My oldest is only 11 so there's no saying how I'll be once they're all grown ;o)

[OxbAbIebxO]

This is how my mom is. If you're not asking her to buy you things because you want them and can afford them, I fail to see how that is mooching. I'm not going to be an asshole and tell my mom no I'm not accepting things you buy me.. That's rude I think.

Quoting lillypie2:

This is how my parents are, for example there was a nativity set I wanted but didn't get a chance to grab it this year..my mom calls me and is like guess what I got you...she found it on sale and grabbed it for me. I never asked her to buy it she saw it knew it was the one I wanted and bought it. I don't see that as mooching.

Quoting Aamy:

My parents still buy me stuff. In fact when my mom came and visited me, she bought me a toaster hehe. I didnt ask for one, it was mentioned in a convo we had and i said yeah i didnt have one. She got me one. I will do the same for my kids. 

[Aamy]

Its not mooching. She knew you wanted it, and she could get it for you so she did. Im sure like a lot of parents, it makes them happy they can still do those little things for their kids. 

Quoting lillypie2:

This is how my parents are, for example there was a nativity set I wanted but didn't get a chance to grab it this year..my mom calls me and is like guess what I got you...she found it on sale and grabbed it for me. I never asked her to buy it she saw it knew it was the one I wanted and bought it. I don't see that as mooching.

Quoting Aamy:

My parents still buy me stuff. In fact when my mom came and visited me, she bought me a toaster hehe. I didnt ask for one, it was mentioned in a convo we had and i said yeah i didnt have one. She got me one. I will do the same for my kids. 

[thatsamorex2]

My mom always buys me things for no reason.She told me she likes to and I do think it makes her feel good.My mom and I are best friends and really close.I am so grateful to have such a wonderful mom.

[Marimaru]

My mom loves doing things for her kids.  As long as we appreciate it :).

[AMR320]

My mom loves to shop and give gifts to pretty much everyone. There is no telling her no! I have mentioned just in passing things that I need or want and it usually comes in a package within a week. (My moms lives in another state). Even if I never mentioned anything she still just buys stuff she sees that she thinks we would like. I think she would go crazy if she couldn't shop for other people.

[PinkButterfly66]

I agree as an adult, you should be helping your parents out, not mooching off of them.  I have a sister-in-law who basically went thru my in-law's retirement.  The in-laws kept bailing her out from one mess to another.   We've been giving my mom money for years to help her out and come to find out she was giving that money to my lazy-ass, spend-thrift brother.  She was paying his mortgage and his bills with it. 

[nurbabe82]

 My mom before she passed would get me things. If she was out and about and thought I would like something she would pick it up and if we went out shopping for the day she might buy something I had in my hand. She never went over board. I'll do it for my kids too.

[nurbabe82]

 

Quoting AMR320:

My mom loves to shop and give gifts to pretty much everyone. There is no telling her no! I have mentioned just in passing things that I need or want and it usually comes in a package within a week. (My moms lives in another state). Even if I never mentioned anything she still just buys stuff she sees that she thinks we would like. I think she would go crazy if she couldn't shop for other people.

 I should have read through the replies before I posted because this was mom to a T. I told her she missed her calling to be a personal shopper lol.