Parents buying things for adult kids

[lillypie2]

I was just having a conversation this morning at work with a couple co workers and one of them was saying how there is a pair of boots she wants and she told her mom..I started laughing and was saying how there are times I'm like oh I really want this and my parents will buy it for me and be like oh it's your birthday present evening it is a few months early, or if they know there is something I really want but won't by it for myself because of the cost or something they will get it for me. It doesn't happen all the time but it does happen. I would do the same for my kids and if my parents ever needed anything I would be there to help any way I could,. Well another co worker that was sitting there told us that was sad and that we were mooching off our parents and that once your an adult you shouldn't get anything from your parents but should be there to give them whatever they need. He said he doesn't get birthday gifts nothing any time from his mom and was told at 13 when he needed new shoes that he better get a job then..to me that is sad. So it got me wondering how many of you have parents that will buy you things or do more of you have parents that say you are an adult I'm not buying anything for you.

[AA2.0]

My parents still give me gifts for Christmas and my birthday. I don't see the big deal. It's not like it's required of them. They choose to.

[devsmom98]

I think its sad that ur co workers mom stopped buying him stuff at 13..I only get stuff for christmas and my birthday but still to not get anything? Ever? I think that's what's sad..

[Elainachoo]

I still get gifts from my parents, even more since I told them I was pregnant. They are extremely generous to me.

[ditsyjo]

presents are not mooching...if it's more thanthat well...

[.Funfetti.]

That is really sad. 

My mom still buys me things, and her mom still buys her things too! Since when do you stop being parents, and when do you stop wanting to do nice things for your kids? That's just strange and really sad to me. 

[Gwynyth]

My pagents buy gifts for me and I buy gifts for them, too.

[ohmandy]

depending on the situation... if its like a "mommy i want this $100 whatever" on a regular basis... thats mooching.  if its thankfully recieving gifts, thats well, lucky haha.

my mom used to love to buy stuff for me and ds.  never anything crazy, but i remember going shopping cause i had no jeans that fit after ds was born and she wanted me to get jeans... i found a good deal.

since then she's had a stroke and lives in a nursing home (multiple health issues on top of the stroke) and STILL tries to give me and ds stuff... lotion she doesnt use, clothes that dont fit... its just in her nature to want to give.

[Rosies50]

Your kids are still your kids, whether they're 11/12, like mine , or 30/32, also mine.lol.

[TLQSlovesME]

It's not mooching. I mean, if I can understand if you were constantly asking for things over and over again and taking it for granted, that's one thing. But if you saw something you genuinely liked and your parents wanted to get it for you, that's a whole other story.

[LucyHarper]

My parents don't buy me anything, but they haven't since I was a small child. When my kids are adults I'll still get them birthday and Christmas presents, but not random presents, I think that's the adults responsibility.