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Question for moms of ADD/ADHD children

Posted by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:16 PM
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I'm not sure where to start with this but my oldest son is 5.5.I have always felt something was off since he was a toddler. He had no fear,never seemed to pay attention, it was just like he didn't "get it". I could punish him over and over again and it did no good. We recently over the summer had him evaluated for autism which he does not have. He started Kindergarten this year and we have had a lot of trouble. He has his good days but they are few and far between. Almost everyday he gets a note sent home and they always say the same thing "Cannot stay on task, getting out of his seat, talking to his classmates". He is incredibly smart (reads on a 3rd-4th grade level). No kind of discipline works. Taking things away he seems to care about but it doesn't stop the behavior so I started wondering can he even control the behavior? He is a very sweet kid, loving and very caring child and very emotional. During the autism evaluation it was brought up that we may want to have him evaluated by a therapist because he was showing signs of anxiety. I didn't see it so I brushed it off but over the course of the last couple of months I now see what they were saying. I, myself, am ADD and also have anxiety so it would not surprise me but how would I go about suggesting he be evaluated? For the longest time I thought he was just incredibly strong willed but now I'm not so sure. :-/

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Master_Debater
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:19 PM
He could be just bored with his work. I'd try working with the teacher on giving him harder things to do once he's done with his work first.
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ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:19 PM

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.

 

Bax
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:22 PM
Write a letter to the teacher, saying "due to issues we are seeing at home as well our concern abut the numerous notes being sent home by his teacher, we are formally requesting an evaluation be done. Sign it and send it.
MandaRose83
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:27 PM

At parent teacher conferences in November the teacher stated she did not believe he was bored because he wasn't doing the work correctly. By work I mean scribbling instead of coloring neatly inside the lines. He hates to color and my husband stated that he believed it was boredom and he was scribbling so he could get the work done as fast as he could because he doesn't want to do it.  I was a little annoyed that she didn't even seem like she wanted to hear us out. We got his report card this afternoon and everything on it was negative. There wasn't one good remark. Like how since we discussed the coloring thing he has gotten better with it. She just seems to choose to nit pick and its driving me crazy! I'm not one to think my kid is a perfect saint but come on! It shows he is trying and she can't even acknowledge that. He has been stating over the last few weeks that he doesn't want to go to school anymore because he will just get in trouble and he knows he will then lose priviledges at home. It's like he is already giving up and he's 5!


Quoting ditsyjo:

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.




snowmommy0406
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:28 PM

My son is ADHD and 6 in Kindergaten, while he is very smart, reading so far ahead of his peers as well as writing and math too, they even mentioned skipping him grades except I don't think he was emotionally ready.  Well his teacher is amazing, he does tend to get in trouble a lot, his biggest problem is he has trouble keeping his hands to himself, he doesn't hurt anyone, but he is always touching either kids next to him, shelves nearby, the pencils in the box, so his teacher bought him a ball that is kinda squishy, it is full of air and also has little koosh like strands on it for him to play with when he is supposed to be listening.  I guess it has done wonders for him giving his hands something to do and he does so much better and been getting in trouble less.  We also have my son in little guy wrestling and it has been a great outlet for him to get some energy out and be the rough and tough hands on little guy that he wants to be.

MandaRose83
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:33 PM

Do I need to go through the school? I already have an issue with this teacher. I would prefer it be done by a psychologist that I have chosen and checked out.


Quoting Bax:

Write a letter to the teacher, saying "due to issues we are seeing at home as well our concern abut the numerous notes being sent home by his teacher, we are formally requesting an evaluation be done. Sign it and send it.



ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:33 PM

 yeah I remember that feeling with my daughter when she was in kindergarten. her teacher the second semester( long story) was like that with her too. wanted us to get her on ADHD medication as soon as possible.turned out she didn't even have ADHD even though she had all the symptoms. she is in second grade now and got basically straight A's last quarter. so hang in there


Quoting MandaRose83:

At parent teacher conferences in November the teacher stated she did not believe he was bored because he wasn't doing the work correctly. By work I mean scribbling instead of coloring neatly inside the lines. He hates to color and my husband stated that he believed it was boredom and he was scribbling so he could get the work done as fast as he could because he doesn't want to do it.  I was a little annoyed that she didn't even seem like she wanted to hear us out. We got his report card this afternoon and everything on it was negative. There wasn't one good remark. Like how since we discussed the coloring thing he has gotten better with it. She just seems to choose to nit pick and its driving me crazy! I'm not one to think my kid is a perfect saint but come on! It shows he is trying and she can't even acknowledge that. He has been stating over the last few weeks that he doesn't want to go to school anymore because he will just get in trouble and he knows he will then lose priviledges at home. It's like he is already giving up and he's 5!

 

Quoting ditsyjo:

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.

 

 

 


 

MandaRose83
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:39 PM

He said to me the other night that he doesn't want to go to school anymore and when I asked why he said its boring. I told him it won't always be that way. I have felt that he'sbeen bored from the beginning but I also feel boredom is not a reason to act out. He doesn't just have these issues in school.They are at home too, he can't even sit at church for 2minutes before he's trying to put his feet up on the pew or lay down or hang on me. He just always has to be moving. When I started to research ADD and ADHD he has almost every symptom. I do not want medication. I just want to know what I can do to help him! I don't want to see him this unmotivated about school already! 

Quoting ditsyjo:

 yeah I remember that feeling with my daughter when she was in kindergarten. her teacher the second semester( long story) was like that with her too. wanted us to get her on ADHD medication as soon as possible.turned out she didn't even have ADHD even though she had all the symptoms. she is in second grade now and got basically straight A's last quarter. so hang in there


Quoting MandaRose83:

At parent teacher conferences in November the teacher stated she did not believe he was bored because he wasn't doing the work correctly. By work I mean scribbling instead of coloring neatly inside the lines. He hates to color and my husband stated that he believed it was boredom and he was scribbling so he could get the work done as fast as he could because he doesn't want to do it.  I was a little annoyed that she didn't even seem like she wanted to hear us out. We got his report card this afternoon and everything on it was negative. There wasn't one good remark. Like how since we discussed the coloring thing he has gotten better with it. She just seems to choose to nit pick and its driving me crazy! I'm not one to think my kid is a perfect saint but come on! It shows he is trying and she can't even acknowledge that. He has been stating over the last few weeks that he doesn't want to go to school anymore because he will just get in trouble and he knows he will then lose priviledges at home. It's like he is already giving up and he's 5!


Quoting ditsyjo:

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.








MandaRose83
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:42 PM

Oh and I forgot to ask you about the adnoids? Why would they be a cause? Is there a connection?


Quoting ditsyjo:

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.




ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:46 PM

 that is why I recomended getting his adnoids checked first. my daughter had enlarged adnoids and she displayed every symptom of ADHD too. The ear nose and throat specialist I took her to said that as many as 50% of the kindergartens diagnosed with ADHD have a simple and fixable physical problem. In our case a 30 minute surgery and with in a week she was like a different child.


Quoting MandaRose83:

He said to me the other night that he doesn't want to go to school anymore and when I asked why he said its boring. I told him it won't always be that way. I have felt that he'sbeen bored from the beginning but I also feel boredom is not a reason to act out. He doesn't just have these issues in school.They are at home too, he can't even sit at church for 2minutes before he's trying to put his feet up on the pew or lay down or hang on me. He just always has to be moving. When I started to research ADD and ADHD he has almost every symptom. I do not want medication. I just want to know what I can do to help him! I don't want to see him this unmotivated about school already! 

Quoting ditsyjo:

 yeah I remember that feeling with my daughter when she was in kindergarten. her teacher the second semester( long story) was like that with her too. wanted us to get her on ADHD medication as soon as possible.turned out she didn't even have ADHD even though she had all the symptoms. she is in second grade now and got basically straight A's last quarter. so hang in there

 

Quoting MandaRose83:

At parent teacher conferences in November the teacher stated she did not believe he was bored because he wasn't doing the work correctly. By work I mean scribbling instead of coloring neatly inside the lines. He hates to color and my husband stated that he believed it was boredom and he was scribbling so he could get the work done as fast as he could because he doesn't want to do it.  I was a little annoyed that she didn't even seem like she wanted to hear us out. We got his report card this afternoon and everything on it was negative. There wasn't one good remark. Like how since we discussed the coloring thing he has gotten better with it. She just seems to choose to nit pick and its driving me crazy! I'm not one to think my kid is a perfect saint but come on! It shows he is trying and she can't even acknowledge that. He has been stating over the last few weeks that he doesn't want to go to school anymore because he will just get in trouble and he knows he will then lose priviledges at home. It's like he is already giving up and he's 5!

 

Quoting ditsyjo:

first if he is really that smart he is probably bored to tears in kindergarten. secondly before you go any farther have you had his adnoids checked? if not get it done.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

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