Moms of adult children...question
I'm asking because I haven't heard from my parents except when *I* have contacted them in months. I've been paying closer attention since Christmas, nothing from them unless I text first. I will admit I haven't called either. I texted on new years eve, my dads bday and then today about some events my kids have coming up that I've invited my parents to. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, my mom texted me once to ask about a gift for DD. I called once to talk to my mom about what to get the kids and one more time to discuss Christmas plans to exchange gifts etc.
It makes me sad, but I have lowered my expectations of them. I just don't expect them to be the parents I wish they were and I won't be disappointed. I think something that really upset me is that I work in a school in kindergarten and my kids are both in school, when the shooting happened in CT my mom didn't even text me to say she was thinking of me or anything. My brother and his gf live with my parents and it's like I've been replaced by this gf. It is what it is and I won't feel sorry for myself, I'm a grown up and am fine taking care of myself and my family, I would just like some emotional support now and then.
It just seems so weird to me that there is no real contact from them. We have had falling outs in the past, twice, once lasted for two years that we didn't speak. The other was just a month or two before I reached out...every time it's me reaching out. I'm kind of tired of feeling like the only grown up in my relationship with them so I've just stopped most of the effort.