Should we go to my grandmother's birthday dinner or not?
My grandma is turning 70 on the 26th. A few days ago I called my mom and asked her what she was planning for her mom. She told me that my uncle was planning to take her out to dinner with his family. She told my grandma that she wanted to go and was going to call her cousins to invite them too. My mom also told me that everyone would pay for them selves. I told her as long as I know a few days ahead that should not be a problem. Later on I call my grandma and she tells me that my uncle planned this over a month ago and how he just wanted her, his kids, and wife.(I think he didn't even want my grandpa or his little brother to go too) However my grandma told my uncle that everyone should be able to go after talking with my mom. The thing that kinda rubbed me the wrong way is that she kept telling me over and over that everyone has to pay for them selves. I mean she must of told me 4 times during that phone call and I completely understand. We have been out to dinner with the whole family many times before and there was only once after my husband's surgery when they offered to pay for us and we didn't even ask them to!! I don't expect anyone to pay for us! Yes we are on a tight budget now but I have been saving money in case we need it and my grandma is turning 70. No one has any details of the place or time when I called them and I just feel like if they are not going to let me know anything then I don't think I will go. I think I should just bake her a Cheesecake and drop it off the day after.