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Update!! Idk what to think?!?! Found condoms in Dh car

The other day my Dh asked to drive my car to work because he had to pick up his boss because her car was broke and his car was a disaster. Well let him take it but I had my own meeting at work so I had to drive myself and ds to it. Well my ds moved something in the back seat, and there under it is a empty 3-pack of condoms. We have not used condoms in years. I asked him about it and he says they were prob one of his guy friends he has recently gave rides. I had him call his friends and none of them admitted to it but one said possibly but he normally buys a different brand. Idk what to do. I am just fustrated.

Update

I did some more digging like some of you told me to. He is not home and leaves his email logged on. So I decided to take a look. Well there are a ton on dating sites on there (which I have confronted him in the past but he says it is where he gives out his email for free porn). I have always just let this go. But over a year back I did find something in his email that made me questioned. It was a sent message to a personal ad on Facebook. I let that go too. But now there is a sent message from oct 24, 2012:
Hi,
Thanks for emailing me back. I would like to chat back and forth and see where it goes from there. How is your day today.

Then it looks like she replied:
Hi k
Whatya up to? Hope you're having a great Wednesday. I am so excited to finally have a couple days off work (well deserved)!!! It's so great to meet a sweet guy. I would love to meet up this weekend for a few drinks and see where things go. I live next to a couple fun spots if you are interested.
I have my contact info on my profile. So don't be shy give me a call :)
Wet kisses

Then he responds:
Hi j
I would live to meet up for drinks just let me know a date and time that would be good for u

Then she messages back:
Hi Kyle???
I tried emailing you but it came back undeliverable. So I hope you get this. :) do you have any plans for tonight. I would love to chat, meet up, whatever. I can't wait to get something started
I am off tomorrow. I should be online if you want to chat. Here is my new profile... I have a couple naughty pics on there for you.

He replies back:
Hi j
If u like to chat and get to know eachother my number is (his correct number)


I don't know what to do. I looked on my text and he was running late from work the day this last message went out and I had to work thirds that night. I don't even know how to go about the process of separating. I know that sounds stupid. But neither of us have anywhere else we can go. We both are on the mortgage. Ect.
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by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:40 AM
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sandra1023
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:12 AM

Wow.  He is not even trying to lie well.  If it doesn't make sense, it probably isn't true.  Men wouldn't carry around an empty condom box and then leave it in a married friend's car.


Quoting Crazylovingfam:

I was just the box no actual condoms but I didn't dig thru his car either. He has never admitted to cheating but I have found profiles (without pictures) on dating sites (including Ashley Madison) but he says they are from where he signs up for free porn and he gives them his email. The only other thing that has made me suspicious is a outgoing message I seen in his email over a year ago stating he wanted to meet up to someone Craigslist email. He swears that was someone hacked him.


Quoting BrownEyedGirl86:

That's tough

My mind would go no where good and quick. But I don't know about your marriage like gas he cheated at all but I do agree with a pp do men really carry condoms in their pockets like. Was it just the wrapper or the package too



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lilyrose2011
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:12 AM
For your sake I hope it is good luck

Quoting Crazylovingfam:

I am hoping it is something as innocent as this




Quoting lilyrose2011:

That's a tough one, my bf accused me of cheating because we had condoms in a drawer but never used them, they were the free ones from the clinic, but anywho one would disappear then another would disappear and another I never noticed until he asked me about it, come to find out my younger brother was taking them and never told ether of us until my bf brought it up with me

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Kitschy
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:14 AM

Why would one of his guy friends have an empty box of condoms in HIS car. 

I'm sorry momma. This isn't good.

starreyedcutie
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:15 AM
I have to agree...he is cheating. Without the dating sites and craigslist shit it would be possible that he isn't but I'm sorry even my dh said "he sounds like he is cheating to me" so there you have it from a guys point of view

Quoting sweetnspacey:

I'm sorry but I'm pretty sure he's cheating



Quoting Crazylovingfam:

I was just the box no actual condoms but I didn't dig thru his car either. He has never admitted to cheating but I have found profiles (without pictures) on dating sites (including Ashley Madison) but he says they are from where he signs up for free porn and he gives them his email. The only other thing that has made me suspicious is a outgoing message I seen in his email over a year ago stating he wanted to meet up to someone Craigslist email. He swears that was someone hacked him.





Quoting BrownEyedGirl86:

That's tough


My mind would go no where good and quick. But I don't know about your marriage like gas he cheated at all but I do agree with a pp do men really carry condoms in their pockets like. Was it just the wrapper or the package too





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DyerMaker
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:15 AM

He is cheating until proven otherwise. It will get him and his friends motivated to come clean about crap. 

angevil53
by Silver Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:19 AM
Yep. He's accidentally cheating. It's a thing.


Quoting Crazylovingfam:

I was just the box no actual condoms but I didn't dig thru his car either. He has never admitted to cheating but I have found profiles (without pictures) on dating sites (including Ashley Madison) but he says they are from where he signs up for free porn and he gives them his email. The only other thing that has made me suspicious is a outgoing message I seen in his email over a year ago stating he wanted to meet up to someone Craigslist email. He swears that was someone hacked him.




Quoting BrownEyedGirl86:

That's tough


My mind would go no where good and quick. But I don't know about your marriage like gas he cheated at all but I do agree with a pp do men really carry condoms in their pockets like. Was it just the wrapper or the package too


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mama2b100808
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:28 AM

Has he done anything different that you have noticed but over looked? I am not going to jump and say he is cheating. But I think you should look into it more and show him all the proof you have. Because of you say it to him he would be like she is saying I am I guess I am going to go out and do it. More proof and then confront him. 

BrownEyedGirl86
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:32 AM
No freaking way then my mind would go a million times faster with worse assumptions.

No one carries the box around unless using them -- who can or would want to carry the box of condoms when the 3 condoms got better in a pocket.

And I wouldn't believe that someone hacked him that much. One of those situations maybeeee but all of them yea freakin right.


Quoting Crazylovingfam:

I was just the box no actual condoms but I didn't dig thru his car either. He has never admitted to cheating but I have found profiles (without pictures) on dating sites (including Ashley Madison) but he says they are from where he signs up for free porn and he gives them his email. The only other thing that has made me suspicious is a outgoing message I seen in his email over a year ago stating he wanted to meet up to someone Craigslist email. He swears that was someone hacked him.




Quoting BrownEyedGirl86:

That's tough


My mind would go no where good and quick. But I don't know about your marriage like gas he cheated at all but I do agree with a pp do men really carry condoms in their pockets like. Was it just the wrapper or the package too

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Jukebox_Jenny
by Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:35 AM
I hope you're kidding...

Quoting mathewss2490:

He's probably masturbating in the car...jeeze...
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2ndtimemom605
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:42 AM
Men don't just go around dropping empty packs of condoms,hell,they don't walk around carrying empty boxes of condoms.

I'm sorry,but that box is your husband's.You know it too right?
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