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Update!! Idk what to think?!?! Found condoms in Dh car

The other day my Dh asked to drive my car to work because he had to pick up his boss because her car was broke and his car was a disaster. Well let him take it but I had my own meeting at work so I had to drive myself and ds to it. Well my ds moved something in the back seat, and there under it is a empty 3-pack of condoms. We have not used condoms in years. I asked him about it and he says they were prob one of his guy friends he has recently gave rides. I had him call his friends and none of them admitted to it but one said possibly but he normally buys a different brand. Idk what to do. I am just fustrated.

Update

I did some more digging like some of you told me to. He is not home and leaves his email logged on. So I decided to take a look. Well there are a ton on dating sites on there (which I have confronted him in the past but he says it is where he gives out his email for free porn). I have always just let this go. But over a year back I did find something in his email that made me questioned. It was a sent message to a personal ad on Facebook. I let that go too. But now there is a sent message from oct 24, 2012:
Hi,
Thanks for emailing me back. I would like to chat back and forth and see where it goes from there. How is your day today.

Then it looks like she replied:
Hi k
Whatya up to? Hope you're having a great Wednesday. I am so excited to finally have a couple days off work (well deserved)!!! It's so great to meet a sweet guy. I would love to meet up this weekend for a few drinks and see where things go. I live next to a couple fun spots if you are interested.
I have my contact info on my profile. So don't be shy give me a call :)
Wet kisses

Then he responds:
Hi j
I would live to meet up for drinks just let me know a date and time that would be good for u

Then she messages back:
Hi Kyle???
I tried emailing you but it came back undeliverable. So I hope you get this. :) do you have any plans for tonight. I would love to chat, meet up, whatever. I can't wait to get something started
I am off tomorrow. I should be online if you want to chat. Here is my new profile... I have a couple naughty pics on there for you.

He replies back:
Hi j
If u like to chat and get to know eachother my number is (his correct number)


I don't know what to do. I looked on my text and he was running late from work the day this last message went out and I had to work thirds that night. I don't even know how to go about the process of separating. I know that sounds stupid. But neither of us have anywhere else we can go. We both are on the mortgage. Ect.
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by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:40 AM
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dobrd
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 7:14 PM
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Crazylovingfam, I can tell you right now Honey, I wouldn't be playing this game one more day let alone one more minute.. Hell w/following him, checking more on him.. You have more than enough proof.. You need not work this hard anymore.. You say nothing of any kids involved, or it's just you/him.. He's a lying, cheating, coward.. You need to leave his happy ass behind for good.. When this girl finds what he's really like, he'll do the same to her.. Don't humiliate yourself waiting for that.. Call a shelter.. Police know the numbers/locations of them all.. Prayers Honey.. Been there yrs. ago.. Y ou can do this.. Take Care, Donna....

Nenarockz
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:00 PM
If he cheated in the past he is doing it again. I heared this quote before once a cheater always a cheater! You deserve way better then that
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Bax
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:02 PM
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Screw that, change the locks and let him find shelter. Don't you leave that house, you did nothing wrong. He broke the marriage vows. He finds a new home.


Quote:

Call a shelter.. Police know the numbers/locations of them all..

EAzizM
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:06 PM
Leave. The last two sentences are no excuse.
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SissyAnn141
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 10:08 PM

 

Quoting Bax:

Screw that, change the locks and let him find shelter. Don't you leave that house, you did nothing wrong. He broke the marriage vows. He finds a new home.


Quote:

Call a shelter.. Police know the numbers/locations of them all..

                        PACK HIS SHIT !!!!!!!!!


 


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j3ssi
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:14 AM
I'm so sorry your going thru this. It definitely sounds like he's cheating to me.
notjstasocermom
by Samantha on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:24 AM

Hes cheating.

GirlWithANikon
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:31 AM
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Text him the email and punch him in the nuts. A good punch to the nuts usually sends the air back up the man's other head. Its temporary however, please keep him on a strict application schedule.

3xangel
by Ruby Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:41 AM
I agree with this. You have all the proof you need.

Quoting dobrd:

Crazylovingfam, I can tell you right now Honey, I wouldn't be playing this game one more day let alone one more minute.. Hell w/following him, checking more on him.. You have more than enough proof.. You need not work this hard anymore.. You say nothing of any kids involved, or it's just you/him.. He's a lying, cheating, coward.. You need to leave his happy ass behind for good.. When this girl finds what he's really like, he'll do the same to her.. Don't humiliate yourself waiting for that.. Call a shelter.. Police know the numbers/locations of them all.. Prayers Honey.. Been there yrs. ago.. Y ou can do this.. Take Care, Donna....

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Basherte
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:48 AM

Leave him. Sell the house and you each take half. But leave him now


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