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Update!! Idk what to think?!?! Found condoms in Dh car

The other day my Dh asked to drive my car to work because he had to pick up his boss because her car was broke and his car was a disaster. Well let him take it but I had my own meeting at work so I had to drive myself and ds to it. Well my ds moved something in the back seat, and there under it is a empty 3-pack of condoms. We have not used condoms in years. I asked him about it and he says they were prob one of his guy friends he has recently gave rides. I had him call his friends and none of them admitted to it but one said possibly but he normally buys a different brand. Idk what to do. I am just fustrated.

Update

I did some more digging like some of you told me to. He is not home and leaves his email logged on. So I decided to take a look. Well there are a ton on dating sites on there (which I have confronted him in the past but he says it is where he gives out his email for free porn). I have always just let this go. But over a year back I did find something in his email that made me questioned. It was a sent message to a personal ad on Facebook. I let that go too. But now there is a sent message from oct 24, 2012:
Hi,
Thanks for emailing me back. I would like to chat back and forth and see where it goes from there. How is your day today.

Then it looks like she replied:
Hi k
Whatya up to? Hope you're having a great Wednesday. I am so excited to finally have a couple days off work (well deserved)!!! It's so great to meet a sweet guy. I would love to meet up this weekend for a few drinks and see where things go. I live next to a couple fun spots if you are interested.
I have my contact info on my profile. So don't be shy give me a call :)
Wet kisses

Then he responds:
Hi j
I would live to meet up for drinks just let me know a date and time that would be good for u

Then she messages back:
Hi Kyle???
I tried emailing you but it came back undeliverable. So I hope you get this. :) do you have any plans for tonight. I would love to chat, meet up, whatever. I can't wait to get something started
I am off tomorrow. I should be online if you want to chat. Here is my new profile... I have a couple naughty pics on there for you.

He replies back:
Hi j
If u like to chat and get to know eachother my number is (his correct number)


I don't know what to do. I looked on my text and he was running late from work the day this last message went out and I had to work thirds that night. I don't even know how to go about the process of separating. I know that sounds stupid. But neither of us have anywhere else we can go. We both are on the mortgage. Ect.
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by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:40 AM
Replies (61-66):
stormy51
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:55 AM

When you look at both the condom wrappers and then an ACTUAL conversation about meeting someone for drinks and see where it goes?  You don't have to do that on facebook to get on porn sites.  Good Grief! All you gotta do is type something into the browser and you'll get more porn than you want!  I'm sorry but you are being lied to.  If you did separate you'd have to both keep paying the house until a judge decided who would get it or whether it should be sold and divide proceeds or you and he can decide to sell if possible.  Neither has parents nor single friends you could stay with.  You don't mention kids, are there any?

IndianaWynette
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 10:17 AM

 If it were me!! He'd regret the day he ever laid eyes on me. In most states if you have kids at home you can take the house, one car, half the money, child support, and allimony. And Adultry does still hold up as reason for divorce in most states with a good lawyer you could take him to the cleaners. And I would and I also would get an acct. on facebook, twitter, and any other sight like that I could find out about and post his Pic's and the story of his betrailure for the world to see, but then I am a very strict believer that if you say "for better or worse"  then that is what it should be and I am a very vendictive B**ch. Sorry you are in this situation Hun.

Jeanna03
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 10:39 AM

the first thing i would have done is emailed her back and say this is his gf or wife weve been together how ever long and say well guess u can have his mess. then i would confronted him told him he needs to get out. im so sorry i wish u the best.

priincessz
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:33 AM
I would stay quiet for now and gather up all the evidence you can get then when you gather everything up surprise him with that and a divorce.
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Texascandee
by Bronze Member on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:50 AM
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I've read all your posts and all the replies to them............hon, how much more proof do you need that he's cheating on you?  If you choose to stay with him for any reason, then you can't be crying about his cheating.  Get out and file for divorce........plain and simple.  If you want to drag this out and need more proof, make a profile on whatever site you think he will go to and bait him........set up a meeting and show up and look at his face when he sees you.  Seriously, pack his shit and put it out on the lawn and he will get the hint when he sees it.

opal10161973
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 11:56 AM

I agree with this about a thousand percent!

Quoting Texascandee:

I've read all your posts and all the replies to them............hon, how much more proof do you need that he's cheating on you?  If you choose to stay with him for any reason, then you can't be crying about his cheating.  Get out and file for divorce........plain and simple.  If you want to drag this out and need more proof, make a profile on whatever site you think he will go to and bait him........set up a meeting and show up and look at his face when he sees you.  Seriously, pack his shit and put it out on the lawn and he will get the hint when he sees it.


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