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If you don't know me and I don't expect many of you to know me but I was going with this guy for a year, I was 16 years old and got pregnant by him (my boyfriend Mike), well I missed my period and took the test and find out I'm pregnant then I let Mike know and he told me I'm crazy, I showed him the test and he still didn't believe me, I was scared because I still had to tell my mom and dad and he was acting like this. Well I went to my mom and I told her that I'm pregnant and I showed her the test, she really was shocked and it didn't bother her that I was pregnant, I thought she was going to start yelling at me. But anyways back to my boyfriend, I went to the doctor's after I told my mom and he finally was convinced that I was pregnant, a week later he dumped me because he didn't want to have a kid and I never heard from him since, at this time I was 10 weeks pregnant.

Well I see him and he was walking with his head down and looking away from me the entire time I was in sight of him, I didn't say nothing to him and he said nothing to me. I had my daughter (his bio daughter) with me and of course I'm pregnant with #2 with my current boyfriend. He has done nothing to help support Bree and I know he knew I was there he couldn't possibly have avoided me. I wanted to smack him in his head. I've been going with my current boyfriend since I was 16 weeks pregnant with Bree and this is our son I'm pregnant with now. This just makes me mad to see this jerk and know that he's Bree's real dad and he has to look away, she calls my boyfriend dada btw.

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:58 PM
Replies (51-60):
flowerfunleah
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:18 AM
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Why have sex in the first place if you didn't want children? I'm not trying to bash you here and I never said you should have an abortion. That's a serious question. 

What's more so, what didn't you learn from the first time getting pregnant? Because you got pregnant again.

Also, and you can get mad over this statement if you want but thats up to you, I'm so tired of people saying "It happened, nothing I can do about it" well of course it happened! Because there was something  you could do about it but you didn't. Don't use fate as an excuse for ignorance. Part of being an adult is admitting fault (god I can't tell you how many adults don't know that, do yourself a favor and be better than them at age 18) and when you have children being an adult is something you ARE now and you have to act like it. 

Quoting bressmommy2012:

I never said I wanted to have kids at this age, it happened and I got pregnant, nothing I can do about it after it happens and I'm not going to go get an abortion or something stupid like that.


Quoting flowerfunleah:

Can you explain why you wanted two children at 18?

Quoting bressmommy2012:

18


Quoting flowerfunleah:

how old are you??









bressmommy2012
by Cassandra on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:18 AM

Yeah I was 17 when I got pregnant, and my birthday is in October. Good for you though, that's you and not me.


Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 

Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17


Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an appartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 







ChocolateJunky
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:18 AM

 

Every Time I read your nasty comments, I think of Cruella Devile smoking a long cigarette. Except much older, uglier, and with a raspy voice. My point? Your words only make you sound extremely ugly. You could be a supermodel for all I care, but your hatred is very unbecoming. Your mother must be so proud to have raised a bully.

Quoting hizwifie:

 

Oh how cute, another teen mom with no high school deploma. Just hat the world needs! I mean we all know how well it works out when you have multiple kids by multiple guys before you can even drink and no degree to boot! Your mom must be so proud that she raised you to have such good decission making skills! Puke.....

Quoting bressmommy2012:

No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.

 

Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?

Quoting bressmommy2012:

Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.

 


Quoting ChocolateJunky:

 


Lol at "your whole life is gone"


Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.


Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt


Quoting bressmommy2012:


I'm 18


 



Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???

 



 


 


 

 


 

 

 

 

 


 

camsmami
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:19 AM
Honey, Im strong and able to speak my mind as well. But its better to be quiet then look like a fool.

Bless yer' heart for trying though.


Quoting hizwifie:

Better no filter on my mouth than no control of my legs =) And yes she is. She raised a strong independent woman who is not afraid to speak her mind. 



Quoting camsmami:

You're mother must be so proud that she raised you with no filter on your mouth.



Quoting hizwifie:


Oh how cute, another teen mom with no high school deploma. Just hat the world needs! I mean we all know how well it works out when you have multiple kids by multiple guys before you can even drink and no degree to boot! Your mom must be so proud that she raised you to have such good decission making skills! Puke.....



Quoting bressmommy2012:

No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.




Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?





Quoting bressmommy2012:

Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.





Quoting ChocolateJunky:





Lol at "your whole life is gone"




Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.




Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt




Quoting bressmommy2012:




I'm 18









Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???

































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bressmommy2012
by Cassandra on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:19 AM

I've considered it, I just need the motovation to do it. I stay home with my daughter now so I'm thinking I don't really need a job, plus my boyfriend works full time.


Quoting camsmami:

Have you considered looking into a GED program.
I suggest this because you could do better by your children with an education. You are still young, you can make your life so much more then just being a baby factory.
In no way am i bashing you. I had my first and only child at 19. Got pregnant at 18. Im 24 now. I focus on trying to give her better. Even though I still have her father and he works hard. I want better for our lives.


Quoting bressmommy2012:

No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.



Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?



Quoting bressmommy2012:

Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.




Quoting ChocolateJunky:




Lol at "your whole life is gone"



Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.



Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt



Quoting bressmommy2012:



I'm 18







Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???






















sampson200
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:20 AM

....says another teen mom....

Just because something is unwillingly accepted today, doesn't mean it's the best choice.

Quoting Megan11587:

Again, what's it to you?  She's no different than a lot of women on here.  Get off your high horse.

Quoting sampson200:

lol

As if that makes it something to aspire to.

She's 18.

Two kids.

Two different fathers.

Let's celebrate!

Quoting Megan11587:

Oh, STFU.  She's pregnant with her SECOND child.  Who cares if it isn't the same father?  A good percentage of women on this site have kids with multiple men.

Quoting sampson200:

STOP HAVING BABIES





camsmami
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:20 AM
Now now.. Her mother raised a strong independent not afraid to speak her mind woman.

That cannot spell, or form a proper sentence for that matter. All the while;sounding highly uneducated.


Quoting ChocolateJunky:

 


Every Time I read your nasty comments, I think of Cruella Devile smoking a long cigarette. Except much older, uglier, and with a raspy voice. My point? Your words only make you sound extremely ugly. You could be a supermodel for all I care, but your hatred is very unbecoming. Your mother must be so proud to have raised a bully.


Quoting hizwifie:


 


Oh how cute, another teen mom with no high school deploma. Just hat the world needs! I mean we all know how well it works out when you have multiple kids by multiple guys before you can even drink and no degree to boot! Your mom must be so proud that she raised you to have such good decission making skills! Puke.....


Quoting bressmommy2012:


No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.


 


Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?


Quoting bressmommy2012:


Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.


 



Quoting ChocolateJunky:


 



Lol at "your whole life is gone"



Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.



Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt



Quoting bressmommy2012:



I'm 18



 




Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???


 




 



 



 


 



 


 


 


 


 




 

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bressmommy2012
by Cassandra on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:21 AM

LOL yeah no kidding. At least I know how to spell and can construct a sentence.


Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<

DIPLOMA*

br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an appartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 









hizwifie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:22 AM

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to critique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but at least I know how to use a condom, which definitely puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I managed to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 

Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<

DIPLOMA*

br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 









Megan11587
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:22 AM

Actually, I'm 26 and have a 10 month old, so no.  I'm not a teen mom.


Quoting sampson200:

....says another teen mom....

Just because something is unwillingly accepted today, doesn't mean it's the best choice.

Quoting Megan11587:

Again, what's it to you?  She's no different than a lot of women on here.  Get off your high horse.

Quoting sampson200:

lol

As if that makes it something to aspire to.

She's 18.

Two kids.

Two different fathers.

Let's celebrate!

Quoting Megan11587:

Oh, STFU.  She's pregnant with her SECOND child.  Who cares if it isn't the same father?  A good percentage of women on this site have kids with multiple men.

Quoting sampson200:

STOP HAVING BABIES






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