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If you don't know me and I don't expect many of you to know me but I was going with this guy for a year, I was 16 years old and got pregnant by him (my boyfriend Mike), well I missed my period and took the test and find out I'm pregnant then I let Mike know and he told me I'm crazy, I showed him the test and he still didn't believe me, I was scared because I still had to tell my mom and dad and he was acting like this. Well I went to my mom and I told her that I'm pregnant and I showed her the test, she really was shocked and it didn't bother her that I was pregnant, I thought she was going to start yelling at me. But anyways back to my boyfriend, I went to the doctor's after I told my mom and he finally was convinced that I was pregnant, a week later he dumped me because he didn't want to have a kid and I never heard from him since, at this time I was 10 weeks pregnant.

Well I see him and he was walking with his head down and looking away from me the entire time I was in sight of him, I didn't say nothing to him and he said nothing to me. I had my daughter (his bio daughter) with me and of course I'm pregnant with #2 with my current boyfriend. He has done nothing to help support Bree and I know he knew I was there he couldn't possibly have avoided me. I wanted to smack him in his head. I've been going with my current boyfriend since I was 16 weeks pregnant with Bree and this is our son I'm pregnant with now. This just makes me mad to see this jerk and know that he's Bree's real dad and he has to look away, she calls my boyfriend dada btw.

by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:58 PM
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3gr8tKids
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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OMG. You sure have made a difficult life for yourself and more importantly those innocent children.
This post is nothing short of heartbreaking.
camsmami
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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Honey. My husband makes 25/hr. He works 60+ hours a week.
I've cleaned hotel rooms for 7.40/hr. Why? Just because that little bit can take us further and make sure our daughter has everything and then some for a rainy day.
My husband supports me while staying home. I train horses as a hobby and am starting barrel racing in the spring. I still show my daughter that you can always do just a little bit more. Even while living a dream.
In this world we have to raise our kids 2 ways. To have respect, and good work ethical attitudes.


Quoting bressmommy2012:

I've considered it, I just need the motovation to do it. I stay home with my daughter now so I'm thinking I don't really need a job, plus my boyfriend works full time.



Quoting camsmami:

Have you considered looking into a GED program.

I suggest this because you could do better by your children with an education. You are still young, you can make your life so much more then just being a baby factory.

In no way am i bashing you. I had my first and only child at 19. Got pregnant at 18. Im 24 now. I focus on trying to give her better. Even though I still have her father and he works hard. I want better for our lives.




Quoting bressmommy2012:

No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.




Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?





Quoting bressmommy2012:

Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.





Quoting ChocolateJunky:





Lol at "your whole life is gone"




Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.




Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt




Quoting bressmommy2012:




I'm 18









Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???





























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hizwifie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:25 AM


Right, why should you show your daughter that is important to get an education when you can have babies and find a man to support you? I mean your married so it is job to support an 18 year old and her kid....oh wait......   Ok, and sinse you want to talk about spelling... MOTIVATION 

Quoting bressmommy2012:

I've considered it, I just need the motovation to do it. I stay home with my daughter now so I'm thinking I don't really need a job, plus my boyfriend works full time.


Quoting camsmami:

Have you considered looking into a GED program.
I suggest this because you could do better by your children with an education. You are still young, you can make your life so much more then just being a baby factory.
In no way am i bashing you. I had my first and only child at 19. Got pregnant at 18. Im 24 now. I focus on trying to give her better. Even though I still have her father and he works hard. I want better for our lives.


Quoting bressmommy2012:

No I didn't graduate high school, I don't know how I could go back now, never really planned on it though.



Quoting camsmami:

Do you plan on college or getting educated? Did you graduate high school?



Quoting bressmommy2012:

Exactly. I couldn't be happier to be in the postion that I am in right now. I think I've grown up a lot where my former friends are all immature and partying, well I'm being a responsible mom and raising my daughter and soon my son, I'm pretty happy to be where I am at right now.




Quoting ChocolateJunky:




Lol at "your whole life is gone"



Having children is so much better than partying all the time. Perhaps her teen pregnancy did her a favor by skipping over all of those mistakes and hard life lessons that a lot of people make in their late teen years. Just saying. I had my first at 19 and don't think my life could be any better than it is now as a young mother with 2 kids. My life is flourishing.



Quoting Willis_Mommie:

your 18 with 2 kids...i am sorry but you should really stop getting pregnant....your way too young....its kinda sad that your whole life is gone...i am sorry for being blunt



Quoting bressmommy2012:



I'm 18







Quoting Willis_Mommie:

how old are you now???
























bressmommy2012
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:27 AM

Oh like I don't know how to use a condom? You're right because I've never seen a woman wear a condom so I shouldn't know how to use one. And no it doesn't put you one up on me, so I have two kids and I'm 18? It doesn't matter that you managed to graduate High School, I'm not the one here looking like a dumbass you are. I can at least spell, construct a sentence and still speak my mind without acting the way you do. And what do you mean by you should aspire to be a baby facotry for every guy who treats me nice for 5 minutes? I've been with two guys, both of them for over a year so it's a little more than just 5 minutes, but keep generalizing about me and assuming things about me that aren't true.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to cratique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but atleast I know how to use a condom, which deffinatly puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I mannaged to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 

Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<

DIPLOMA*

br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 











camsmami
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:28 AM
You cannot sit back and critique someone for.being uneducated when here you sit. Being you.

Condoms don't have a damn thing to do with anything. I haven't used any type of BC in 5 years and don't have a child. Do you see me bashing Her?

Things happen, you either deal with it or you fall o your face. Seems to me she's doing her best to deal.

The best you could do for your own self worth is shut up. Because honestly the more you type. The more ignorance spews.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to cratique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but atleast I know how to use a condom, which deffinatly puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I mannaged to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 


Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<



DIPLOMA*



br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 










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bressmommy2012
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:28 AM


Oh like I don't know how to use a condom? You're right because I've never seen a woman wear a condom so I shouldn't know how to use one. And no it doesn't put you one up on me, so I have two kids and I'm 18? It doesn't matter that you managed to graduate High School, I'm not the one here looking like a dumbass you are. I can at least spell, construct a sentence and still speak my mind without acting the way you do. And what do you mean by you should aspire to be a baby facotry for every guy who treats me nice for 5 minutes? I've been with two guys, both of them for over a year so it's a little more than just 5 minutes, but keep generalizing about me and assuming things about me that aren't true.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to cratique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but atleast I know how to use a condom, which deffinatly puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I mannaged to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 

Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<

DIPLOMA*

br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 












camsmami
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:28 AM
You cannot sit back and critique someone for.being uneducated when here you sit. Being you.

Condoms don't have a damn thing to do with anything. I haven't used any type of BC in 5 years and don't have a child. Do you see me bashing Her?

Things happen, you either deal with it or you fall o your face. Seems to me she's doing her best to deal.

The best you could do for your own self worth is shut up. Because honestly the more you type. The more ignorance spews.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to cratique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but atleast I know how to use a condom, which deffinatly puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I mannaged to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 


Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<



DIPLOMA*



br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 










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Mama2JoshKatie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:32 AM
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I just want to strongly encourage you to plan for your future. You might think you have it all squared away now, but trust me you don't. When you are in your 30's and looking back you will deeply regret if if you don't get a good solid education and some training in a field that's interesting to you. TRUST ME. For your sake and your children's sake plan for your future.

I'm not going to bash you for your mistakes. And all is not lost. You are young and you can still have a bright and happy future. But it's not going to just "happen". You need to pursue it. There are no guarantees in life. Don't just assume your current boyfriend is going to be able to support you and your kids the rest of your lives. A million things could happen in the next 10-20 years. You need to start thinking ahead.

Okay getting off my soap box now.

hizwifie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:40 AM


Seriously?! LMAO no wonder you are pregnant again! I don't have a dick but I sure as hell  know how to put a condom on a guy. Also, there are female condoms. How were you not learning this in school? Did you drop out before they got to that part or what? You are looking like a dumb ass by having 2 kids at 18 and thinking there is no reason to get a GED or HS diploma because your boyfriend is currently supporting you. Yea, see how long that lasts. 

Quoting bressmommy2012:

Oh like I don't know how to use a condom? You're right because I've never seen a woman wear a condom so I shouldn't know how to use one. And no it doesn't put you one up on me, so I have two kids and I'm 18? It doesn't matter that you managed to graduate High School, I'm not the one here looking like a dumbass you are. I can at least spell, construct a sentence and still speak my mind without acting the way you do. And what do you mean by you should aspire to be a baby facotry for every guy who treats me nice for 5 minutes? I've been with two guys, both of them for over a year so it's a little more than just 5 minutes, but keep generalizing about me and assuming things about me that aren't true.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to critique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but at least I know how to use a condom, which definitely puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I managed to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things don't matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 

Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<

DIPLOMA*

br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 













hizwifie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:43 AM


Really? Damn, I could have sworn that in health class they said those things can help prevent pregnancy. Guess they were lying. I will have to let all my friends who have sex and use them and never get pregnant that it was all a lie. 

Quoting camsmami:

You cannot sit back and critique someone for.being uneducated when here you sit. Being you.

Condoms don't have a damn thing to do with anything. I haven't used any type of BC in 5 years and don't have a child. Do you see me bashing Her?

Things happen, you either deal with it or you fall o your face. Seems to me she's doing her best to deal.

The best you could do for your own self worth is shut up. Because honestly the more you type. The more ignorance spews.


Quoting hizwifie:

Oh boo hoo. What, no real come backs so you decide to cratique my spelling? That is cute. Hey, I may not know how to spell but atleast I know how to use a condom, which deffinatly puts me one up on her. Oh and the part where even with a couple of spelling errors I mannaged to graduated high school. Oh, and having this little thing  called ambition. I guess those things dont matter. You are right, I should aspire to be a baby factory for every guy who treats me nice for 5 min. 


Quoting camsmami:

I do believe she means.

"I guess you had a birthday SINCE you got KNOCKED up"<



DIPLOMA*



br />
And you're bashing her for being uneducated?

*hands you a mirror*
Quoting hizwifie:


You were 17 when you got pregnant, i have seen you post that before. Guess you had a birthday sense you got nicked up. So glad you managed to reach the age most girls are graduating high school before you pushed out the second one. Oh and I got pregnant at 17. I had the good sense to get my high school deploma and I am taking college classes on and off when I get the time. I was also married before I got pregnant, sad that is such a novice idea these days. Making a mistake once is understandable, doing it twice is stupidity. Hope you grow up soon. 


Quoting bressmommy2012:

Good thing I'm not 17



Quoting hizwifie:

You are 17 and pregnant with your second child by a second guy. What the hell is wrong with you? Learn to keep your damn legs closed so you dont have 5 kids before you are even old enough to drink. I mean really. You are not even old enough to get an apartment on your own and you are nocked up for the second time in like 2 years? This is just sad....... 












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