My BIL is 17. He keeps himself away from the family, in a room where no one is, if not his own room with the lights off and typing away on his phone or ipad. My dh teases him all the time cuz he's talking to a girl named Hibba who lives in another country, I said Shan isn't that too much he doesn't eat with the family if not at all, doesn't spend time with us he's always away constantly on his phone or ipad. He wasn't like this a few months ago. He said its fine he's not going to far with lovey stuff he just likes her and they talk that's all. I'm like he has a lock on his stuff, well he said just leave it, it's not serious. Well, my sil and I were dying to know, so I saw him swipe his password and when he went to take a shower, like criminals we barged in and looked, it's filled with "don't you know I love you?" He calls her "butterfly" and so on. I couldn't get much but maybe a few lines cuz then we heard the bathroom door open and bolted.
Ever since this started he's been eating less and hitting the gym every day for hours. His grades have gone down, and he plans to sky dive off the worlds tallest build in dubai this summer but I doubt that I think he will take off to see or meet her there. We believe we know the girl she was at the wedding we attended in pakistan (they're all originally from there but our entire family lives in bahrain in one big home. She's a few years elder than him...I talked to my in laws about it they're not concerned they said its just Internet no one takes that stuff seriously I said I think he is taking it seriously since he's abandoned time with his family he's like a stranger now, grades are falling and he is completely changing, he skips school a lot with excuses like his back hurts and stuff and all day is on his phone.
I would like to add his friend just committed suicide last week for losing his gf who he met online...
What are your thoughts? Should parents intervene since its going far now?? Here, you're not considered an adult till 21.