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Why do you argue like it's a parenting style/choice?

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When it comes to car seat safety, why argue about what's safe or not? You are either doing it right, or you're doing it wrong. If you're wrong, you are NOT RIGHT. You CAN NOT argue that you're right. There are too many tests, and experts (techs) that have been educated for YOU to aruge that it's okay because some jim bob from what'cha'ma call it's fire station said it was good enough. GET A CLUE!! 


And yes, I'm a tech.

PLEASE take a look at this if you're interested in admitting that you might be doing something wrong, and actually doing something about it.

http://dailymomtra.com/2011/03/30/the-picture-guide-to-car-seat-safety/


Phew. Sorry, I had to say that after that mess of a post that I just read!!

by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 9:07 AM
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MamaPeanut
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:52 PM
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I disagree, because she isn't telling the parents to wear their seat belt, they are an adult, they can make their own decisions about THEIR lives. 

But children are innocent and need to be protected.  Someone needs to stand up for them to keep them safe and alive.  What she is doing is her best efforts to prevent the deaths of kids from the #1 cause of death for them.


Should we ignore child abuse too so we "stay out of people's business"?  Just ignore the bruises because the Mom thinks she is right to hit her kid with a bat? 

Quoting brebugmom91:

If it becomes your excuse to butt into other people's lives, yes you should stop.

Quoting finnbar:


should I stop reading about child sex trafficking, because that upsets me too?  When you hear about people in danger, the answer is not to ignore them and pretend they don't exist.  I am not trying to tell parents how to buckle their children I am trying to help save PEOPLE.  In the words of Dr Suess: A person's a person no matter how small.


Quoting brebugmom91:

Then don't read about them.



Quoting finnbar:

because it makes us sad to read about dead children, we're just weird like that




Quoting lapcounter:

Why can't people just simply mind their own business?









finnbar
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:52 PM
If i went up to random people and demanded to know how they buckle their kids and told them they better change 'cause I said so, that would be butting into people's lives. Participating in an online exchange of info/debate isn't intrusive. If the whackadoodle carseat bucklers can't handle seeing others point out the problems in the carseat pictures they post of their improperly restrained children then they should avoid these threads.


Quoting brebugmom91:

If it becomes your excuse to butt into other people's lives, yes you should stop.



Quoting finnbar:


should I stop reading about child sex trafficking, because that upsets me too?  When you hear about people in danger, the answer is not to ignore them and pretend they don't exist.  I am not trying to tell parents how to buckle their children I am trying to help save PEOPLE.  In the words of Dr Suess: A person's a person no matter how small.



Quoting brebugmom91:

Then don't read about them.





Quoting finnbar:

because it makes us sad to read about dead children, we're just weird like that





Quoting lapcounter:

Why can't people just simply mind their own business?











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lilbit53009
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:53 PM

why do laws differ by state then...if it's black and white and experts all agree on the same thing?


EsmeVincent
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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When someone on here says "I'm a car seat tech" I hear "I know it all and if you don't listen to me then your kids will die"
MamaPeanut
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:55 PM

Because laws take a very long time to be changed, and often to not keep up with resaerch and knowledge.  An expert can't simply change the law as he or she chooses, it takes years of red tape. 

Laws are there as bare minimums, but it's the responsibility of the parent to seek expert advice (from a qualified person) and do the best they can to keep their child safe.

Quoting lilbit53009:

why do laws differ by state then...if it's black and white and experts all agree on the same thing?



kelliehelvie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:56 PM

That's hilarious! 

Quoting EsmeVincent:

When someone on here says "I'm a car seat tech" I hear "I know it all and if you don't listen to me then your kids will die"


brebugmom91
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:58 PM
Ok. Whatever lady. You obviously want an argument and I don't have the energy to give it to you. Do what you want.

Quoting finnbar:

If i went up to random people and demanded to know how they buckle their kids and told them they better change 'cause I said so, that would be butting into people's lives. Participating in an online exchange of info/debate isn't intrusive. If the whackadoodle carseat bucklers can't handle seeing others point out the problems in the carseat pictures they post of their improperly restrained children then they should avoid these threads.




Quoting brebugmom91:

If it becomes your excuse to butt into other people's lives, yes you should stop.





Quoting finnbar:


should I stop reading about child sex trafficking, because that upsets me too?  When you hear about people in danger, the answer is not to ignore them and pretend they don't exist.  I am not trying to tell parents how to buckle their children I am trying to help save PEOPLE.  In the words of Dr Suess: A person's a person no matter how small.




Quoting brebugmom91:

Then don't read about them.







Quoting finnbar:

because it makes us sad to read about dead children, we're just weird like that






Quoting lapcounter:

Why can't people just simply mind their own business?













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sammygrl77
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 1:58 PM
Very informative. Some of those pictures made me cringe.

I will still listen to my own certified seating specialist, who knows exactly what seat and jacket my child has, over a random person on the internet.
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brebugmom91
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 2:00 PM
Child abuse to car seats not being used the way YOU think they should be is comparing apples to oranges. Besides unless it us full on abuse, I do believe people need to butt out of hoe a parent disciplines.

Quoting MamaPeanut:

I disagree, because she isn't telling the parents to wear their seat belt, they are an adult, they can make their own decisions about THEIR lives. 

But children are innocent and need to be protected.  Someone needs to stand up for them to keep them safe and alive.  What she is doing is her best efforts to prevent the deaths of kids from the #1 cause of death for them.


Should we ignore child abuse too so we "stay out of people's business"?  Just ignore the bruises because the Mom thinks she is right to hit her kid with a bat? 

Quoting brebugmom91:

If it becomes your excuse to butt into other people's lives, yes you should stop.



Quoting finnbar:


should I stop reading about child sex trafficking, because that upsets me too?  When you hear about people in danger, the answer is not to ignore them and pretend they don't exist.  I am not trying to tell parents how to buckle their children I am trying to help save PEOPLE.  In the words of Dr Suess: A person's a person no matter how small.



Quoting brebugmom91:

Then don't read about them.





Quoting finnbar:

because it makes us sad to read about dead children, we're just weird like that





Quoting lapcounter:

Why can't people just simply mind their own business?











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kelliehelvie
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 2:00 PM
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yes, but the parent shouldn't let it be. The option is either, right or wrong. Why would you make the "wrong" choice, your "right" choice? 

Especially when you have been educated. I hear all the time "well before I came on CM I never heard about ________" Well now you have, so shame on you for not taking that information and doing the right thing. So yes, it is a choice, but why are you choosing to make it so darn difficult?? Oh and read your manual for goodness sake!

Quoting motherslove82:

Because, like it or not, it is a choice. 


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