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im a potty training failer...hell a failer over all!!

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God i fail. iv talked some some people read what theyahve done. talked to my mom. read post after post on cm about how kids should be potty trained or your lazy. and i feel bad. Iv tried off and on since she turned 2. started with morning sits on the potty. but it was hit or miss and we couldnt never time it right. OR she would scream and kick and get up set. yesterday she started sittign on it with out fighting so i thought ok. lets do this!

Woke up today at 8. put her on potty first thing gave her some milk...then breakfast. she sat there happy for 30 min but no potty. so i figure she peed just as she woke up in bed. so i stand her up put on new tink undies (she lvoes tink thought it might help) she peed....just as soon as she stood up she peed! So off they come and we sit to see if she needs to finish. 15 min she wants up so she stand up i put on undies and she finishes!!!

at this point i think ok she is good for at least half hour. I set timer to try again in 30 min. we put on the tink undies and SHE runs to the kitchen to play..but comes back like 2 seconds later and come sto me turns around and i smell it! she pooped!!!!!!!

its only 10 am and im done and in tears because i dont know what im doing wrong!! all the family i talk to say she should be potty trained and talking there must be something wrong with her. MIL says it wont happen till she is 3 just like her daddy be cause apparntly my genetics dont matter. her temperment, her looks everything comes form daddys side not my side!!! her blond hair, daddy (im blond for christ sakes!) she is used to cold because he is norwegeion by a 1/4...(im half norwegen) im just so fed up and tired of people saying im failing!!!! i know i screw up i know im bad at this! but i dont know what else to do!!! and here i have another baby on the way and i can screw up him to!

i hope im just hormonal today. but i just cant stop crying and jsut feel like im failing today. i know im gonna  be bashed but i hope between the bashers i could get some good help and hints on what to.

*edit*  thanks ladies for all your advice on what you did and ages.  I think i was just feeling really pressured from family and friends and being pregnant with baby number 2.  Iv writtin down what you ladies did and am gonna try some of them... not looking forward to the Naked idea BUT some of you used that and made progress....and im sure my daughter would love that best HAHAH.  i will continue to read and write down as others reply.  i think we all get down every once in a while and "growing up" isnt the problem.  when your father (lives across state) says he wont feel comfortable visiting  his grandchildren  until they walk and talk and potty trained. and calls once week to see how there doing it can be upsetting.  when your mom takes 2 year old for aweekend and says she used the potty no problem you just have to try harder it breaks your heart/pride and what little mojo a first time parent has. 

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by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:17 PM
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KittyTussand
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:59 PM

oh i didnt even think about the whole regression thing.  thanks!  im mostly more worreida bout peeing on couch then the floor but yeah same thing.  thats pretty awsome that he didnt have an accedent. IM pretty sure thats why she had accedents today.  since i put on undes she peed. 


Quoting macendaxislove:

Oh I didn't like the idea of him being nakey either, but to my surprise it actually worked, and right off the bat after many failed attempts! I thought he'd be peeing on the floor as well, but he never had another accident. O_O lol

Once she's potty trained it'll be a real relief, but rushing wont really help, shes gotta do it on her own when shes ready.
My sons Dr told me when I was 8 months pregnant and still trying to potty train him fast just to give it a break and try after i have the baby, because sometimes even if they are all potty trained the will regress after baby is born.

Quoting KittyTussand:

i think since i got pregnant iv been trying a bit to hard and pushing maybe fo rher to potty train.  Might just have to wait.  when babe is born she will be 2 1/2. might be a better age to try to potty train.  couple other ladies mentioned no undies/dipers and made progress. might be the way to go. but thought of her running naked dosnt appeal to me LOL


Quoting macendaxislove:

I tried a bunch of different ways to potty train my son. not every kid is the same and they all learn differently
I've been trying since he was 2, but then i got to pregnant and took a break, a little bit after my second was born we tried again, that time i did it with no undies/diaper and let him run around naked. as soon as we started, he never  had an accident again. this was a month before he turned 3. but now he's been sucessfully potty trained for months.
Just don't rush it, be consistant and she'll do it when she's completly ready :)






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KittyTussand
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:04 PM

this is exactly what she has been doing last couple days.  especailly today. since htis morning she has gone "potty"  on the chair twice..but her diaper was on.  so im not sure how to transition right now. but think i will just let her get used to going to it for now.  and work on diper off once she makes it more of a ruitine.  might be why she peed in undies as soon as she stood up to.


Im pretty sure thats why MIL says those things but it just bugs me after a while.  My mom ahs rude and dense as she is counts both me and hubby in. MIL just counts hubby.  but MIL and i have had a rocky relation ship since daughter was born so she just gets on my nerves most of the time anyway.


Quoting jgates1111:

My son is 2 and we are trying to work on potty training, so far he will walk to the potty and sit down on his own, if he's got a diper on he will potty in that but if i take the diaper off it takes him a little while to potty. I know he's a little young for it right now but I want to get hm used to being on the potty.


As for the issue with the MIL, its her son so she's going to think about him when looking at your daughter. My MIL does the exact same thing, my son looks exactly like me except he has blonde hair and my MIL is always making comments about how he got his blue eyes from her family, blonde hair from her family, skin tone from her family, ect. even though I have blue eyes ( no one in her family does but her mother) My family is all blonde but me, and he has the exact same skin tone as i do and none of his dads coloring.



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cardingtonlizzy
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:07 PM
Oh ffs, quit listening to what everyone else says needs to be done. She'll go when she's ready. Tell the others to go jump off a cliff
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jgates1111
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:08 PM

 Just giveher more time, you could wait til summer then put her in a dress and let her run around outside in just that, its how my aunt pottied trained all of her girls. For the boys she just let them run around the yard with no diaper and would put the potty chair outside with them. My son knows what its for but I think he llikes the secure feeling of his diaper. Good luck though!


Quoting KittyTussand:

this is exactly what she has been doing last couple days.  especailly today. since htis morning she has gone "potty"  on the chair twice..but her diaper was on.  so im not sure how to transition right now. but think i will just let her get used to going to it for now.  and work on diper off once she makes it more of a ruitine.  might be why she peed in undies as soon as she stood up to.

 

Im pretty sure thats why MIL says those things but it just bugs me after a while.  My mom ahs rude and dense as she is counts both me and hubby in. MIL just counts hubby.  but MIL and i have had a rocky relation ship since daughter was born so she just gets on my nerves most of the time anyway.

 

Quoting jgates1111:

My son is 2 and we are trying to work on potty training, so far he will walk to the potty and sit down on his own, if he's got a diper on he will potty in that but if i take the diaper off it takes him a little while to potty. I know he's a little young for it right now but I want to get hm used to being on the potty.

 

As for the issue with the MIL, its her son so she's going to think about him when looking at your daughter. My MIL does the exact same thing, my son looks exactly like me except he has blonde hair and my MIL is always making comments about how he got his blue eyes from her family, blonde hair from her family, skin tone from her family, ect. even though I have blue eyes ( no one in her family does but her mother) My family is all blonde but me, and he has the exact same skin tone as i do and none of his dads coloring.

 

 


 

ILoveMyKids84_
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:09 PM

Maybe she just isn't ready,you sound really stressed out and it's probably effecting your child to,take a break from the potty training until she shows more interest.

ILoveMyKids84_ Formerly _WC_Mama


Barronbaby
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:15 PM
Throw away the books and tdll grandma to shut it, kids will potty train when they are ready too. Often times potty traing becomes a power struggle. Your dd isnt ready. When she can go 2 hours or morw being dry then she is closer to ready. My ds wasnt into the whole potty thing when he turned 3, his specialist chalked it up to his delays and said to hold off till he was ready. A month later he decided on his own he wanted big kid underwears. I made a huge deal the first day because the first day he had 2 accidents... dh and I even had a cakw and ice cream party to celebrate big boy. The next day no accidents. Now he has one occasionally if he waits too long but they are few and far between. I sucessfully trained my dd before him in a weekend using the same method only difference was she was 2. You are not a failure! Keep your chin up
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davnrori
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:23 PM

 My son will be 4 in April and he still wears pull-ups at night. I didn't start trying to potty train him until he was 3 because I could tell he wasn't ready. It was quite different with my oldest daughter. I started potty training her when she was 18mo and in two weeks she was completely diaper free. She had some accidents here and there but not many and I was surprised at how long it took for my son. My youngest daughter is 19months and I'm not going to start thinking about potty training her until she's two. Every kid is different and trying to rush things will only lead to frustration for both you and your kid. Don't let your family make you feel like you're failing. There is no such thing as a 'perfect' parent.

yellownes8
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:35 PM
I understand feeling the pressure of trying to potty train before your second comes...I had 2 in diapers when I was pregnant with my third and I was worried about having 3 I'm diapers. (I had 3 kids in 33 months) However, you need to realize that your child needs to be ready and not be forced just because you don't want 2 in diapers. I tried potty training my oldest when she was 2 and it didn't work out. I waited until she was 2.5 and she trained in a day. Personally I would skip the whole "potty training" thing and just wait until your child is ready.
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