Awkward situation. What would you say/do?
So quick background. My dad had his first kid when he was about 19. He married the woman he got pregnant AKA my oldest brothers mom. they got divorced for reasons that I dont know and never asked. He then got with my sisters mom and they got married (this was like 6 years later) When my sister was born her mom realised she did not want kids and took off leaving my dad with my sister. 9 years after having my sister my dad got my mom pregnant with me. The never got married. My oldest brother was about 18 when I was born. He was raised by his mom. We never lived in the same house, I dont remember seeing him when I was little, and I have seen him like twice in the past 10 years, maybe 8 times my entire life.
OK now for the situation. His mom died recently. My sister txt me to let me know. IDK if i should say anything or send flowers or something. I mean he is technically my brother, but I hardly know the guy. I dont even know what he does for a living and I dont ever remember meeting his mom, though I may have when I was very young. I also dont know if I should mention it to my dad or what to say if he brings it up. Again I have never met her as far as I know, barely know my "brother" and best of my knowledge my dad had no contact with her after my brother turned 18. My sister said she was going to send flowers and say they are from me, but IDK how I feel about that. It seems kinda weird. Thoughts?