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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!

My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 9:31 PM
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by mom of 2 boys on Jan. 31, 2013 at 9:43 PM

my two boys are diffent  my oldest is tall skinny and my little guy is small little big  

my boys are 10 and 4

by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:05 PM
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Okay, 4' even would be 50% for 7. She definitely is higher for bmi but, bmi doesn't account for bone density, muscle mass, etc. 

Quoting FawnW1978:

I can't remember what they said her height was, but she is 50% for her height and 115% for her weight....she gained about 20lbs in 1 year...usually it's about 5-6lbs....I'd say she is about 3 1/2 feet apx...her dad is a bigger guy..5'11" and about 300 lbs, but he is stocky, until I had kids, I was apx 5'4" and 135....trying still to get the weight off from the 2 kiddos, I'm a little heavy at 180ish, but don't feel I'm fat....Dd#1 is spitting image of me and DD#2 is spitting image of DH....

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:26 PM
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she will even out after puberty.. i was underweight up until puberty, then while going through puberty was overweight, then finally at the age of 15, i was where i should be. i wouldn't worry to much.

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:59 PM
My 11 year old dd is 80 pounds and athletic. I'd find a nutritionist to help u out. Hospitals have them and insurance covers it.
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by Bronze Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:37 PM

Yeah, that sounds concerning to me. At ds' 7 year well visit last March, his ped mentioned that his BMI was a little high and even though he looked just fine to her, we should watch it. I believe he was around 49 in. and 62 pounds?

Do you happen to live near a YMCA? They usually offer financial assistance and are a great way to get some family fun (and exercise!) in, you can go on the weekend if weekdays are too hectic. We joined in August and it's been great for our family. Ds has taken basketball, volleyball, soccer, and swim lessons and is currently on the basketball team there (and dh got roped into coaching it). We also go to open swim a couple times a week, mostly on the weekend. Dh and I are still trying to get our butts in gear and go work out there more. If you can get financial assistance for a membership,  (I *think* you mentioned cost being a concern for activities?),  their classes are really reasonable for members (ex: swim lessons here are $5 for members vs. $70 for non-members for the 8 week session).

by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:09 AM

That is a lot I won't lie my 7 yr old is 57 pds and wears a size 7 exactly where he should be according to his pediatrician so to have a child the same age be 30lbs heavier at the same age that is a lot.  Sounds like simply not enough physical activity.  She needs somehow to be able to become more active.  At least an hr or 2 a day 5-7 days a week. 

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:11 AM

It would concern me my daughter weights 90 pounds and she's 13.

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:03 AM
Thanks, but I think I had to add it when I created this only allows me to "edit" it way to post a pic after I posted the message?!
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:07 AM
You can click "reply with picture" and add a pic to the replies if youre mobile.

Quoting FawnW1978:

Thanks, but I think I had to add it when I created this only allows me to "edit" it way to post a pic after I posted the message?!
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