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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!

My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:09 PM
Oh wow, she's not as small as I thought. I stand corrected.

She's beautiful by the way.

Quoting christina0607:

You'll find as she gets older that at the age of 12 girls and boys bodies are quite different, lol. 

Here's my daughter

Quoting moniagee:

As a matter of fact, I do. She's also tiny. She's 4, almost 5, and can still wear a 3T and weigh 27 lbs. I wasn't trying to be rude, I was just trying to visualize someone being 5ft 6in, and weighing 86lbs. And I used my son who's 5ft. 7in and 97 lbs as a visual and I know he's a rail, lol.

Quoting christina0607:

Do you have a daughter? 

Quoting moniagee:

Eh, their bodies are pretty much the same at that age until puberty sets in.

Quoting christina0607:

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by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:05 AM

Replace the chips with carrot sticks or tomatoes and you should see a difference pretty quickly. Chips have no nutritional value - they're just starch, salt and fat. One starch is enough per meal and you already have one in the sandwich. Also, replace the fruit drink with a piece of fruit and water. That way they'll feel fuller, be getting extra fiber and less empty calories. 

Quoting FawnW1978:

We pack the girls their lunches and it is usually a sandwich, chips, a yogurt, a drink and maybe one snack....their drink is usually a fruit drink, but that is all they get during the day besides water and maybe a glass of milk.  The school seldom does a piece of candy here and there, but the girls are good about waiting and asking if they can have it.  They will have a school lunch maybe once every 2 months or so.


by Cherish on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:13 AM
She is so cute, idk it does seem a little concerning that she weighs more than her older sis, maybe seek a second opinion.
by Platinum Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:32 AM


               Wait untill she starts her PERIOD.

         The weight may just drop off, I have seen this in so many girls.

          I would limit sodas, and junk food, If you think they eat to much,

          Replace with Healthy Replacements.

          Personally, I think she will grow out of it, (just baby fat).

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:11 AM

yes, her weight should be of concern to you -- start her now on healthy eating habits without putting her on a diet.  you can exercise with her simply by asking her to come with you on walks rather than the other way around.  my step-daughter is 11 years old and is huge -- the problem is her mother is huge and allows her to eat whatever she wants.  so please help your child now.

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:14 AM
Quoting xxshelbyxxx:

"No offense"????
Live in my shoes first before you judge DH and I work extremely hard and try our best at being parents...we have to make a living to be able to support our family. Yes, it is hectic at times, but we do our best. We are the middle class and pay our bills on time with no help...sometimes without any money left at the end of the week...we don't qualify for food stamps/financial aid of any sort and never wish to. We try to make our kids' life decent. I buy things they need, not always want and I go without....for those of you that can afford to stay at home with your kids, consider yourselves lucky....there isn't a book out there that tells you how to raise your kids...every family is different. We have 1 working vehicle and don't owe a dime for it...we are trying to make our lives better by paying off debt DH and I had gotten into before having gets in the way and things come up...we deal with them the best we can. I love my girls with all that I am and don't need negative criticism when asking for general help or info...please keep your negative comments out of my post, I would appreciate it! Thank you
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:09 AM

My boy is severely overweight.  Once his ADHD med wears off, he gorges himself, and there isn't much I can do about it except limit the fattening snacks around the house. I have no control over what he eats at school.  That said, I got a doctor's note, and we are going to the gym several times a week (he's 10; the age requirement at the club is 12), and we are doing the bike and other cardio machines, and very light weights after learning to use them from a trainer.  I can just hope he grows in height and loses the chub.  Overweight runs in the family...  I also signed him up for a martial arts class.  He is very awkward, and that sort of thing is super hard for him.  But I do know one thing from my mom trying to control MY eating: it's a losing battle, and not one I want to engage in.  Get her moving, somehow, even if you have to get a dance game for Wii or Xbox, something like that.  Everyone dance together?  Jump rope?

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:17 AM

For me I would be concerned on the weight. 

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 9:51 PM

She is a cutie, but I would be concerned.  Good for everyone to eat healthier and getmore activity.

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:25 PM

I was your younger daughter growing up.  My three siblings were all super skinny and I was always the heavy one even though I ate the same things that they did.  My grandparents also started the "chubby" comments but worse was having to buy the "pleasantly plump" clothes or not being able to find clothing that fit me.  My SIL is the same and she has struggled with her weight her whole life.  This is not something that kids usually outgrow in my experience.  I still struggle with my weight.

My mom limited my food portions.  You may need to change "what" your daughter eats.  Like me, your daughter may have a really slow metabolism.  So I would start by figuring out how many calories your daughter consumes right now.  Also double check with the daycare that they are not giving her snacks.  When I worked at a daycare there were always snacks available and particularly for those who might forget to bring one from home.  Once you know how much she is consuming start switching to lower calorie items.  For example, if your family drinks full fat milk switch to 2% until you are used to that and then switch to 1%. Check your food labels for msg (monosodium glutamate) and high fructose corn syrup.  Eliminate those items. Both can cause weight gain.  By the way, if you change how your whole family eats then it will not make your daughter self-conscious.  More fruits and veggies for everyone - not just her.  Also, on your special treat days maybe try some lower calorie treats (that are just as good!).  Like fresh fruit smoothies, berries with whipped topping, etc. 

Best of luck!!!

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