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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!

My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:42 PM
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I'd be concerned. I have been heavy my entire life. I found out at the age of 28 that I am insulin resistant which can be a predecestor to diabetes. I am on the Paleo diet now (after 10 years of no docs being able to really advise me how best to eat) and have lost 17 lbs and am feeling much better. I had been showing signs of insulin/blood sugar problems since I was 12 y/o. The doctors kept saying nothing was wrong and I just needed to eat less and exercise more. I didn't eat any more than the rest of the family and I was always outside playing not to mention the gym classes at school. I now have PCOS and hypothyroidism. Just because her thyroid levels are "within normal range" does not mean they are "normal" for her. Mine are within normal range but is actually underactive for my system.

Listen to your gut and find out what is going on. Doctors aren't always right and they don't always really listen to your concerns. Have more tests done, go to a something. She's a beautiful girl and I wish her/you the best!

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:29 PM
I'm in the same situation with my son, he is in the 95% for his weight he is 6 and 57#, he doesn't appear over weight at all, he is active, all the time, and is in soccer and basketball, I am overweight( at 5'5, 263) my so, his dad, is extremely underweight(at 6'2, 140) I try to manage my son intake, but his dad eats more than any three people combined, and my son can as well, I try to slow him down but so, says if he is hungry let him eat, he doesn't understand that they do not share the same metabolism, so doc says not in a red area physically( just by looking at him) but same thing "keep an eye on it"
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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:57 PM

My dd is 6 years old, 48" and 60 lbs.  She wears a size 7 - 8.  When I asked her doctor if she thought she was chubby (I worry because I struggled with my weight all of my life and don't want her to go through the same), the doctor didn't hesitate when she said yes.  My daughter is also very solid.  I think the standards between doctors are very different.  My dd is off the charts in height and weight.

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:05 PM

I would be concerned just by activity levels. Maybe try her out with a sport of some kind, something that interests her that she will keep up with on her own? Dance, skating, softball, something? Both of your DD's are adorable, they could almost be twins!! Now is a good time to address her weight, before her peers turn into the @$$holes they will become around middle school.

by Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 5:35 PM
From the pic she looks fine to me. Some kids are chunky for a while then go thru growth spurts. I did want to share with u that a common cause of alopeca is a gluten intolerance. Try cutting out gluten from her diet. May help as well with her weight.
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by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 5:37 PM

It would concern me.

by Platinum Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 3:24 AM
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    I have spent my entire life, trying to gain weigh.

   Your child can inherit features from 7 generations back.

  I have always been accused of Anorexia, PREGNANT and not eating, SO, they Put me in the hospital, and found out "I WAS EATING".

   I am 5'4 and 108lbs and 45 years old, PLUS have a perfectly, Healthy, 20 year old son.

  Put us at a Buffet Table anywhere...........laughing

 Tell them to leave your daughter alone, as long as she is healthy.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 4:54 AM

I would honestly just make sure she doesn't overeat between now and about a year after she gets her period. I got to my final height of 5'3 when I was 14 years old, and now at 22 years old I am 5'1 lol. I don't think it's anything to worry about, and taking her to a specialist might only make her self esteem drop. She is beautiful. She may be like Jordin Sparks, if you know who that is... not fat at all, but thick and tall. My brother was very short until he hit 13.... at 16 years old he was 6'5. Just wait it out and make sure her weight doesn't go up too much more. What's the family history like on both sides? One side big, one side small? DD1 could have taken after one, and DD2 could have taken after the other, possibly, if that's the case. But I really don't see an issue with it. I was 49 lbs at 7-10 years old {I didn't gain nor lose a pound for an entire 3 years}, but was perfectly healthy. Every kid's different.

by Silver Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:07 PM

She is chunky but at this age, I would not restrict food just offer healthier choices like fruits and veggies for snacks and limit juice, cut out soda, restrict cookies and sweets to once and a while.  If you cut out the processed foods and sugars she will "grow out" of her chunkiness.

by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:24 PM

 i would keep an eye on it


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