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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx 70lbs...my youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!


My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink


by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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katzmeow726
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:28 PM

She is somewhat overweight, but still a beautiful young lady.  Try and get her involved in some sports, and try to get her out and active at least 3 times a week.  Hard as it is, you are going to have to make time for activities.  
   Not to sound harsh, but you're making excuses. Lots of families who work even LATER than you do still have time for sports and activities.  And a lot of programs, specially church affiliated ones have fee assistance.  You can buy equipment at thrift stores.  Or you can just get out as a family a few times a week and go for walks.  30 minutes of cardio a few times a week is NOT hard to do.  
    You can continue with the excuses, but all you will do is excuse her in to weight issues.  There is never too little time for health.   

virgochild79
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:44 PM

Is she happy? If she doesn't over eat, don't worry about it and make an issue about it. She's beautiful and as long as she's healthy, teach her to embrace the skin she's in. Let her be a little girl, she's only 7. Keep her active and she'll be fine.

FooLynRoo
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 6:22 PM

I hate to say it, but she does seem pretty heavy.

I have no experience with heavier kids, other than my nephew and he shot up at puberty, he's still a bit doughy but he's just a big kid.

I know he did have a lot of trouble in school when he was younger though.

I dont know if you should be "worried". I would probably just try to make sure she has healthy examples and options for eating and exercise.


She is totally adorable though!!

NDADanceMom
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 6:39 PM

yes she is chubby and Id talk to your doctor about it if you really dont know what you can change.  I know what its like.... and still live with it.  Im the chubby sister and my little sister has always been willowy.  I am built like Mellisa McCarthy and my sister is built like Nicole kidman.  It really sucks. 

My mom was fixated on my size and controlled what I ate.  It really did more harm than good.  Id get advice from a professional rather than trying it on your own.  I definitely would do SOMETHING though.  

minimo77
by Member on Apr. 28, 2013 at 2:29 PM

Even a nice walk each night after dinner would help. 15/20 mins a day is a good place to start, no juice/processed foods(white bread, rice, pasta-use whole wheat varities) Make it a whole family thing so she dosnt feel like its all about her.

Lindsay4Ambit
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 2:39 PM

You say she's eating healthy, and all is well at home. But she's clearly overweight. It's not bad, just may be medical. Or, prehaps she's not eating as well at school as she is at home. I wouldn't draw attenion to it to her, but definatly head back to the doctor (second opinion). She looks incredibly happy and vibrant, she might grow tall soon and even out. If it's not effecting her, don't let it get to you too much. Can she run with her sister, and stay active for as long as other 7 year olds? 

Anoronlight
by Member on Apr. 28, 2013 at 2:46 PM

You can consult a specialist if it will make you feel better. But it doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong. You might need to add a few things here and there if need be, but I would say that it isn't really anything you are doing. What most people forget is that a person's metabolism affects our weight too. I was always a little on the "chucky" side. I did eventally grow in height, but I am also big boned. I have very broad shoulders like my dad and hips. I also have NO metabolism, so its harder for me to burn those pesky calories.

Another thing I found is its not always the sweets that can do it. I have found for myself, cutting out white starches and breads is the best way for me to manage my weight better. I follow a clean eating diet and so does my family.

If you feel that concerned about it, talk to a specialist, ask whatever questions you can come up with. And be open about your concerns. You have to feel better as the mom and sometimes some of the regular docs don't get it and just, blow it off as nothing, when maybe there really is something going on.

jconney80
by Gold Member on Apr. 28, 2013 at 3:05 PM

I think I would try to find some way to get her more active. I realize that you have them go to bed early but they are getting older so maybe you can get them to bed a little later? I know many sports activities at churches and such offer scholarships for kids whose families have a hard time affording extra curricular activities. Maybe squeeze a family walk in every night? That only takes up about 20 minutes or so every day and she should lose weight. I would be concerned. I don't think it's a huge concern but many kids are developing diabetes at a young age due to being overweight. I think just adding some extra exercise in and healthy foods (limit carbs, starches, and grains). 

IloveNCIS
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 3:11 PM

No offence but she looks over weight to me.

kiriis
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 3:17 PM

Ehh, baby fat.

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