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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!

My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:09 AM
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I'm sure she will even out as she reaches puberty. I've learned that weight isnt much of an issue. My dd will be 6 on the 19th and weighs 51lbs and is 47" tall. She is by no means fat but is very muscular so she's heavy. Nobody can believe how heavy she is! lol
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by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:11 AM
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Without getting into detail about our financial situation, we wouldn't be able to qualify for any financial aid...both hubby and I work and make too much money to qualify, yet we live paycheck to paycheck....and, we are trying to get out of debt that we got ourselves into before we had kids...such is life huh? But, we did find that they have ice scaring lessons once a week for the girls to do that can fit our available times and budget...that won't start until march, but it's something. Also, I've made it so the girls can't play any video games on their wii that they can just sit and pay, they have to do dancing or sports games if they want to play during the week. My husbands family is very large and Hispanic and there is always a function to go to on the weekends and I swear it is always a function that has massive amounts of food around....thank you for your advice!
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:25 AM
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Since this is bothering you so much I would go ahead and take her to a specialist to relieve your stress over this. Then if the specialist says all is okay, drop it and enjoy your girls. It sounds like you are doing everything right even limiting the grandmother's "chubby". I fully agree with you that this could cause a complex for your daughter. Keep up the good work and don't get too stressed out over this. You've done everything right including checking with the doctor. Good Luck and God Bless

by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 4:28 PM

I would have her checked out again. It might be nothing, but it is better to know for sure. I would ask about early puberty as well. My DD had a huge weight gain for 3 years in a row, starting at 7-8, and got her period fairly early, especially for our family, at 10.5.

My just turned 8 yr. old is in the 97th for weight at 80lbs. But he is tall as well. His older brother is tall and lanky, at 15 he's 5'11" and 130.

And you need to make time to exercise as a family. Change bedtime by 15 minutes and use that time to take a family walk around the block. Toss a football or tennis ball as you go. It will help everyone.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 12:56 AM

My friend's kid is over 160 lbs. at 5'1" and his doctor begs her to do something about his diet because he is starting to get muscular diseases, blood pressure disorders and having trouble with blood sugar at a very young age but she keeps saying shit like "he needs to learn on his own to control his eating". She keeps saying he will even out when he hits puberty, yeah, great excuse to do nothing.

Therefore, my answer is, when your doctor starts pleading with you to help your child lose weight, you really need to worry.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 12:58 AM
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My dd2 and dd1 are different ethnic make ups. Dd2 will almost definitely carry more weight than dd1.
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by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:03 AM

I found an easy way to quietly cut calories was to switch the kids over to ONLY drinking water.  They either ate their calcium in their food that day or I gave them an calcium/D supplement before bed if they were falling short.  It was an easy way to shave off a 100-200 calories without too much attention being drawn to it.  

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:44 AM
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Quoting FawnW1978:

I can't remember what they said her height was, but she is 50% for her height and 115% for her weight....she gained about 20lbs in 1 year...usually it's about 5-6lbs....I'd say she is about 3 1/2 feet apx...her dad is a bigger guy..5'11" and about 300 lbs, but he is stocky, until I had kids, I was apx 5'4" and 135....trying still to get the weight off from the 2 kiddos, I'm a little heavy at 180ish, but don't feel I'm fat....Dd#1 is spitting image of me and DD#2 is spitting image of DH....

 I would think if she is 115% for her weight it is time to be concerned.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:47 AM
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If she has no medical issues, eats healthy, and is active, then i would say it too early to be concerned.  

BUT!!! You are mom and if your gut tells you there is something wrong, then perhaps a chat with a specialist would be a good idea.  

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 3:00 AM
Since you pack her lunch you could use a great calorie counting site like livestrong and see how much of her diet is carbs, fats , proteins. There may be ways that empty calories are sneaking in. I do believe we all have different metabolisms and maybe a blood type diet may help change things around. I was let become a fat kid around 9 years old and it was very hard to over come in a healthy way. I stress ate a lot and live with stretch marks. Please seek professional advice from a child psychologist about how to address changes in a positive healthy way because it is a tricky situation that her grandmother is not handling correctly but think how your daughter will feel living in the shadow of her skinny sister. Good luck and hugs.
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