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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!

My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:34 PM
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I know my 9yr old dd is 85pds too.  She always had gotten chunky then have a growth spurt.  But since the end of second grade I have noticed that the belly stays even when her height increased.  I have been concerned and doc wasnt.  I decided with this new year that everyone in the house would be eatting better.  I have NO chips/doritos in house just tortilla chips, and I am even looking for lower in fat snacks for both the kids/myself.  I am making it about changing all our eatting habits because we honestly were not the best eatters.  My ds is 12yrs old and has a little belly but not nearly as chunky as his slster.  She is in a size 12 bc of her waist and the pants are always too long.  She also doesnt stand straight....meaning she actually stands up and pushes that gut out! lol.  Her back actually curves in and belly shoots outward making it look worse.  She is concerned because her friends are skinny and she isnt.  She has expressed being upset about it already and that was without us even mentioning it.  For the new year we also joined a gym as a family where the kids have active activities like basketball volleyball or swim....even dance and gymnastics.  Hopefully the gym helps all of us.  I have been overweight most of my life(since around the third grade as well).  I so dont want her to go through that.  

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:24 PM
I have a 4 and 7 year old, my four year old has a different build than my 7 year old. The size of the 7 years old is 48 inches tall weighs 56 lbs and wears an 8 slim in jeans. My 4 year old is 46 inches tall weighs 74 lbs and wears a 8 husky jeans. They weighed the same at birth and both love to be active. Think they can just be built different. My doctor has been following the 4 year holds growth and he has stayed steady on his own growth chart. I think the height is an important thing to help you figure it out. I would for sure stay away from people who make them feel bad about themselves I've had trouble with that before. We also limit sweets and soda just as a precaution but unless the doc is worried I wouldn't worry too much.
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by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:38 PM

My daughter gained a lot of weight between during 2nd grade, especially over the summer. The next summer, after 3rd grade, she inexplicably began to loose a LOT of weight, like 30 lbs in 2 months. In July, she was diagnosed diabetic. The weight gain was chalked up to "Pre-diabetes". I don't mean to scare you, but it might be worth testing for. Prayers are with you, KN

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:38 PM
My 11yr old son is in the 90%. For the last year the whole family has cut out all white sugar, processed foods and have added ALOT of veggies and more fruit. It was a huge change, lots of adjusting. Portion sizes were the biggest. I felt bad telling my kids they could not have seconds.
I inform them of calorie intake, sugar and fat. They know how to read the nutrition labels. they help with food shopping and preparation.
It takes time and work but its worth it when my kids say they they feel strong! Keep them moving! We are snowed in over here in Wisconsin so we have been playing a lot of kinect games! Good luck! Tina**
Email me if you need support!!
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by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:41 PM
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the lady at the WIC office freaked out at my DD's weight....she's 1 year old, 31" tall, and almost 33lbs. Doc says she's fine, I'm not worried about it.

If in doubt, go see your doc. Or if you think she's a bit heavy, make an effort to go on a family walk. Daycares and schools do not place a priority on physical activity, so we the parents must do it for our family's health.

Good luck!

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:48 PM

My six year old boy is just under 40 lbs, so quite small. He is slim and not very tall for his age, so I worry about that. I can't even imagine him over twice his size. Even though you and your husband are a bit heavy, this seems extreme. I would try to help her out by adding an activity so that she doesn't start suffering socially. Children (and adults) can be cruel.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:49 PM
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I really wouldn't worry about it.
How were you and your husband when you were children?? And are you two the same height or different??
My hubby is younger but taller and thinner than his older sister, always has been. 
It just happens. If the doctor isn't too concerned, you're eating right, and she's healthy, it shouldn't be a problem.
Now, when SHE start noticing a difference, that's when you should worry so she doesn't form an eating disorder or something.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:53 PM
Ooh yeah, WIC can act all crazy. They kept on me about my dd's weight, and the nutritionist was an idiot--she kept recommending foods my dd is allergic too, even arguing about our allergist's diagnosis, food recommendation, and choice of allergy medication! DD's height and weight are both in the 90s percentile and her pedi says as long as they are within 10% of one another she is not concerned. My dd looks a little chunky but she has a stout build, and active. She is in gymnastics/tumbling and dance year-round and does seasonal activities like cheer,soccer, and swimming. She has started "slimming down" this school year and for now we are happy, though we are as a family working on bettering eating habits.

Quoting shellyNkatie:

the lady at the WIC office freaked out at my DD's weight....she's 1 year old, 31" tall, and almost 33lbs. Doc says she's fine, I'm not worried about it.

If in doubt, go see your doc. Or if you think she's a bit heavy, make an effort to go on a family walk. Daycares and schools do not place a priority on physical activity, so we the parents must do it for our family's health.

Good luck!

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by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 6:56 PM

I would be concerned about the 20lb gain in a year.  My boys are huge, my 4 year old is 46in and 50-55lbs.  He is solid, not chubby at all. He just as a bigger body structure.  My three year old is 40lbs, I'm not sure how tall he is, but he is tall for his age.  I'm not concerned at this point because they don't look chubby, they are just big.  My 3 year old is in 5t or 4 and my 4 year old is in size 6/7

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:05 PM
I think it's always good to be concerned when your child is at either extreme end of the weight/size spectrum. I don't think that means you should freak out, but it might be time to step up your efforts to get the whole family moving and eating better. There is always room for improvement, even if you feel you are already being pretty healthy. Since it sounds like you have ruled out a medical reason for the weight gain, it only makes sense that it's a matter of too many calories in and not enough activity.

Just as a point of reference, my 6.5 year old DD is 44 inches tall and 38 pounds (wears a size 6 slim), and my about to turn 10 year old DD is 52" (4ft 4in) tall and 52 pounds. She wears between an 8 and 10 slim depending on the length. They are both pretty slim girls, but neither is "underweight".

Good luck to you guys! I know it's not easy when there's only so many hours in a day.
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