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Is my little girls weight something I should be concerned about??

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I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx 70lbs...my youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 

I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 

I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....

The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?

I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!


My girls are the 2 younger ones in the blue and pink


by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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Des10ed2b
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:27 PM

i was always a pretty tall and thin kid, but around 10-11 or so i got pretty chunky. nothing had changed, i wasnt eating differently or anything, i was just going through an "awkward phase" and by the time i turned 13 i had evened out. actually, i think 13 was probably the prettiest year of my life. lol. 

as long as she isnt having health problems, is eating healthy, and is active, i would not be concerned. My brother was a shorter kid who was stocky and a little chubby. now? he is 6'2 and about 190! 

AmyA1071
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:33 PM

I would suggest you keep them on a healthy diet, continue to monitor the "junk food and sweets" but if you are concerned I would get a second opinion on the endrocrine side as being young and heavy makes it harder as an adult but unfortunately w are all built differently.

singlemomw2grls
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:48 PM

I would focus on eating healthy and keeping them as active as possible. Family walks? Or playing Just Dance on Wii or something fun like that. Kick a ball around in the yard. . . If your doc isn't concerned then I wouldn't be, especially since your husband has a stocky build. She might just be taking after him. I would make sure to emphasize with her that all people are built differently. I have a similar issue with mine and know how hard it can be. Good luck!

aidensmomma508
by Wendy on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:23 PM

If the dr is t concerned then no worries.  I would look up her BMI

ladyraven16
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:30 PM
It just depends on the kids build.
My oldest is 44 is in almost 6 and 53lbs

My youngest just turned 4 is 43lbs 40"
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Rooobeee
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:32 PM
If you haven't done so yet, have your daughter's pediatrician check her for scoliosis. My youngest also had a belly and would stand with her butt sticking out when she was in 2nd grade. Her ped referred her to a specialist who discovered a 9% curvature in her spine. Fortunately, she grew out of it by puberty and by consciously changing her posture. Also, the doc taught her a couple of exercises to help realign her growing spine.


Quoting babybutastink:

I know my 9yr old dd is 85pds too.  She always had gotten chunky then have a growth spurt.  But since the end of second grade I have noticed that the belly stays even when her height increased.  I have been concerned and doc wasnt.  I decided with this new year that everyone in the house would be eatting better.  I have NO chips/doritos in house just tortilla chips, and I am even looking for lower in fat snacks for both the kids/myself.  I am making it about changing all our eatting habits because we honestly were not the best eatters.  My ds is 12yrs old and has a little belly but not nearly as chunky as his slster.  She is in a size 12 bc of her waist and the pants are always too long.  She also doesnt stand straight....meaning she actually stands up and pushes that gut out! lol.  Her back actually curves in and belly shoots outward making it look worse.  She is concerned because her friends are skinny and she isnt.  She has expressed being upset about it already and that was without us even mentioning it.  For the new year we also joined a gym as a family where the kids have active activities like basketball volleyball or swim....even dance and gymnastics.  Hopefully the gym helps all of us.  I have been overweight most of my life(since around the third grade as well).  I so dont want her to go through that.  


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edelweiss23
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:35 PM
That sounds very heavy for both children.

Mine are 7 and 9 as well. And one weighs 56 lbs and the other weighs 62 lbs.

It might not be the quality of food they are eating, but the quantity they are eating.

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britngavin
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:41 PM

I am no help, I have a 6 yr old boy who is underweight for his age/size(he's tall and super skinny), but he continually follows the same growth curve so his dr isn't real concerned, his metabolism is just too fast(and he NEVER stops moving, definitely keeps me on my toes that one, lol). I just wanted to wish you luck, and talk to a nutritionist if you can. Good luck mama!

Lottie925
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:48 PM

I would be most concerned about a 7 year old gaining 20 lbs in 1 year. Seems unusual. Height to weight is very important also. 115% is obviously not where you want to be if the height doesn't match. Also, your dh is obviously obese. My dh is a big dude, not skinny at all an 5 11 and 185.

Rooobeee
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:52 PM
I know you're concerned and by rights you should be. But, you also have to realize that the growth charts are a generalized guideline. One doctor had told me that the charts are originally based on generally healthy Caucasian kids. They don't take into account family histories or different ethnicities, which is why most doctors don't follow them to the letter. If your daughter's doc doesn't seem extremely concerned, then try not to worry too much over it. Kids do grow at different rates, even siblings.

One thing I've discovered with my own kids is that neither of them take after me where weight is concerned. My son is as skinny as a rail like his father was in high school. Both my daughters (at 12 and 14) get their stockiness after their father and possibly my father's side as well. They are both bigger than I was at their age (I took after my mother's side). However, all my kids are tall, with my son over 6 feet and my oldest daughter already 5'7. So for you, if you can, wait for puberty to hit because your youngest may thin out a bit.

However, if this issue is seriously keeping you up at night with worry, then by all means, get a referral to see a specialist. Spending a few extra bucks for peace of mind is always better than stressing over not knowing.


Quoting FawnW1978:

I have 2 beautiful littel girls, 7&9....My oldest(DD#1) is tall, lanky a size 10 and apx 70lbs...my youngest(DD#2) is short and stocky, a size 14 (for her waist size only) and apx 85lbs....they are 2 completely different kids and body styles....when DD#2 was almost 5 years old I noticed her starting to gain a little extra weight....she HAD been growing properly and along the same sizes as DD#1 at her age.  We took DD#2 to the doctor to have her checked for thyroid issues and diabetes, along with alopecia due to me noticing 3 small spots of hair missing on her head....everything came back normal, the Dr said the alopecia was probably temporary and her hair would grow back (it eventually did).  They said that DD#2 would have a growing spurt and be fine.....Now, 2 years later, she has outgrown her older sister as far as clothing size, not height. 


I am a working mom, and DH works as well, we are up at 5am to get ready for the day and out the door no later than 6:30 to get the kids to daycare and to work by 7am.  We usually don't get home from work and daycare until apx 5pm...the girls are in bed by 7:30pm, so we don't really have the time for after school activities.  The girls eat the same portions and DD#1 usually asks for seconds where DD#2 doesn't.  We limit sweets/deserts to 2 days a week(Wednesday and Saturdays) unless there is a birthday or special occasion. 


I have also limited their grandmothers' visits due to her continuously calling DD#2 "Chubby".  I don't need my 7 year old to have a complex and turn out having an eating disorder....


The doctors don't seem concerned about DD#2's weight.....I know kids grow differently and at different weights/heights...but, should I consult a specialist??  Or am I over reacting?  Or, should I just wait another year or so and hope for that growing spurt the doctors keep saying she will have?


I just want another mothers opinion, DH isn't concerned like I am....Thanks a bunch!


 


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