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Feeling like a bad mom

Posted by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:38 AM
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No matter how hard I try to be a good mom, I find myself saying things to my daughter I regret. Why is that?
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nicole6870
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:39 AM
Were you raised that way?
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Tinabrandt
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:45 AM
I don't think so
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Tinabrandt
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:46 AM
I'm a perfectionist and my dad was.
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Teacher101
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:50 AM

Because kids can be frustrating... just don't forget to say lots of positive things when you aren't frustrated... and don't be afraid to apologize.

nicole6870
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:51 AM
Gonna play counselor for a min. :) it's possible that your dad being a perfectionist rubbed off on you to where you felt inadequate if you weren't the best thus expecting it from your daughter. You may not even realize that you're nit picking until an "explosion" (saying things you don't mean).


Quoting Tinabrandt:

I'm a perfectionist and my dad was.

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Tinabrandt
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:52 AM
Yeah. I always do my best to apologize and make up for it. I over apologize!
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Tinabrandt
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:54 AM
Thanks for the therapy! Yes I do believe that.
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frndlyfn
by Emerald Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:24 AM

You speak before you really think about what you are saying.  When you feel frustrated or overwhelmed, take a breath and count to 10 think about what you are about to say and how it could affect the person you are speaking to.  For example, you see a lone sock on the floor...... Is it worth yelling at child/adult or firmly ask them to pick it up.   Tone of voice can make all the difference in how a message is conveyed.   Never be afraid to apologize and admit you are not perfect.   No human being is.  Do not compensate the person past saying i am sorry i said that to you.

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