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Posted by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:01 PM
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What do we do my mil is basically on her death bad she is not getting along with her daughter and also says no to any visitors but us. My husband is so lost he want to respect his moms wishes but also feels bad and wantsvhis sister and niece to come see her before she passes.
What would you do?

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NDADanceMom
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:03 PM
I'd call in her pastor/ priest or a hospital social worker. It's not your place to push it.
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JulyBabies
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:03 PM

Call the sister, definitely. In the end, I am sure your MIL will feel some peace knowing that she at least saw her daughter for the last time. Plus, your sister in law will likely feel guilt if she does not see her. 

mom2jaymeenella
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:05 PM
She is not religious

Quoting NDADanceMom:

I'd call in her pastor/ priest or a hospital social worker. It's not your place to push it.
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NDADanceMom
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:11 PM
That's why i offered social worker

Quoting mom2jaymeenella:

She is not religious



Quoting NDADanceMom:

I'd call in her pastor/ priest or a hospital social worker. It's not your place to push it.
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mom2jaymeenella
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:14 PM
We have been waiting all day for hospice to come talk to us they have not shown up

Quoting NDADanceMom:

That's why i offered social worker



Quoting mom2jaymeenella:

She is not religious





Quoting NDADanceMom:

I'd call in her pastor/ priest or a hospital social worker. It's not your place to push it.
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Nicole1357
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:15 PM
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Respect his mother's wishes 

brannew
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:20 PM

My grandmother requested that one of her daughters not be present in the hospital or at her funeral.  This is because my aunt's husband molested every kid in the family.  So.......I don't know what the situation is on your end.  Is she just being stubborn or is she standing her ground?

mom2jaymeenella
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 7:22 PM
Really she is in and out of it. But if we ask anything she says no.

Quoting brannew:

My grandmother requested that one of her daughters not be present in the hospital or at her funeral.  This is because my aunt's husband molested every kid in the family.  So.......I don't know what the situation is on your end.  Is she just being stubborn or is she standing her ground?

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Bonneata
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:08 PM

Have the sister and niece come for a visit. Your mil is on her death bed now is time lay any disagreements to rest. 

TableforSeven
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:14 PM

I would inform them and allow them to come if they want.

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