dh doesnt love our daughter anymore ****UPDATE****
well thats how things have been feeling.dh is step dad to my daughter ( shes four about to be five), hes always loved her so much he even got her name tattooed on himself.but we recently had a baby together (shes a month old) and since her birth dh pays no attention to my first born, he lays in bed holding the baby until he goes to work. hes so great with her. but whenever my first walks in he yells at her to get out of the room, or is always scolding her for things that he shouldn't be. for example today she came in the bedroom to just say "i love you" which she does a 100x a day. he said "idc get out Margie go watch t.v." and she started being all upset asking for him to come out and watch it with her and he starts yelling for her to just get out... this is only one example of his behavior. it has been so bad even HIS parents have pointed out his behavior to him... he doesn't deny it he just says "ill work on it" or blames it on work saying hes stressed... well i think if that was the case he would be that way with everyone. but hes only like this with her, hes even treating me better then he ever has, it feels like hes trying to push my daughter out of our family. and idk what to do, i have tried talking to him, but nothing changes. or it will for 5 min, then he starts up again. any advise ladies, im so lost, im afraid i will have to leave him if he doesn't change.
well yesterday i told dh that i wanted to go for a drive (he has a tendancy to walk away when i say things that bother him) this way he had nowhere to go but to listen,
i told him i will no longer tolerate his actions towards dd1 and that if he didn't change his ways i would leave and never look back. i told him that if he needed someone to talk to then we could do counseling or anything he needed, and so on and so fourth.. i went on for about 20 minutes putting him in place and standing my ground, and in all our time together ive never seen him cry. until the very moment i mentioned leaving him. i finally asked what he thought and felt about all i had just said, and he explained that he didn't love her any less, and that he still loved her like his own. but that he was just in a new "shock and awe" kinda place with this "new and shiny baby" he never got to experience a new born before and just got caught up in and and lost his way. but he said that he will change and begged me to not leave him. and i am glad to say that he has in fact gone back to the wonderful dad he was to dd1 and finally woke up and realized all he had to loose, he seems very genuine when hes playing with dd1 or reading her a book, i even saw him sitting at her little tea table having a tea party :), so thank you ladies for all your great advice, but don't worry my eyes and ears are still peeled and have no problem leaving if he even thinks about acting like that again. so thank you again ladies :)