Ex drug addict, future husband? What's your opinion?! Help!
Well they say love is blind, so I figure I'd come here to find some answers.
I met a man who is perfect, and yes I realize no ones perfect, but for the sake of the story lets say he is, loving, adoring, helpful, considerate, family oriented, great with my son, etc.
theres just one down fall, every night from 730-9 he's in NA meetings for past drug addictions. Now I'm not one to judge people based on their past, and he's serious about these meetings and staying on the right path, but am I crazy here? Should I be running in the opposite direction? Once an addict always an addict, or can great men come from sketchy pasts?
He's pretty down on himself, negative about the things he's done and thinks I'm going to run away, but he's got just cause to think that way. I'm a good girl, always have been, no drugs, no smoking, hardly any drinking. And he's an ex drug addict that I'm nagging to quit smoking, I got him the patch, he got pissy and said it didn't work then went out and bought the e cig. To each their own I suppose.
every time I try to be a part of his solution and help him in some way it ends in a fight, last night he told me I was too intense and I needed to back off and let him do things his way. Said if we were going to fight all the time he didn't want to be in a relationship with me. All my overly sensitive girl ears heard is its easier for him to hide behind his meetings and excuses and not man up, and he was going to hate me for making him man up.
so what's your opinion am I fighting a just cause or an already lost battle? He's so perfect in every other way that its hard for me to let go, but do I need to? Or is there hope?