Loving an addict one heart break at a time
So yesterday I posted about my struggles with trying to help my SO through some of his hurdles and pushing him along a little bit. Every time I try to help he pushes me away and it causes a fight. You all told me I was being too clingy, that I was putting too much pressure on him and told me to back off. So SO and I had a long talk and I told him I'd support him no matter what and although it would kill me I wouldn't interfere and I'd let him do things on his own terms.
well today was my day off we had plans to spend the day together and then have a nice date night after I got a babysitter. Well plans changed I ended up driving 3 hrs north to visit my father in the hospital (brain surgery) SO went to the beach and hung out with some buddies while I was gone. By the time I was done at the hospital date night was a bust but I told him to come over anyways and we'd just stay in tonight. He replied saying he couldn't, he had drank too much and no one would let him drive.
Dissapointing, frustrated, discouraged and heart broken. I really love this man, but he won't accept my help or help himself. The one time I back off and let him do it on his own and he gets drunk and can't get himself home.
come on girls, what do I do here, how do I handle this? I have myself and my child to think of, and although he's a perfect angel when were together I have to be able to trust him when he's gone!
do you think he really wants to quit and get better and fix his life or is he just telling me what I want to hear. He told me it would never happen again, but I can help but wonder how many times he's said that before and to how many different people...