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Child abuse issue with a friend.. need advice but please don't bash

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An old friend of mine that I've known for years (since 2004 when her oldest twins were born) has had a lot of issues with cps ranging from abuse, to neglect, and child endagerment. Everytime everything was unfounded.

Recently her eldest of the twins went to his teacher and confessed to her the "abuse" he was getting from his mother and his 2 brothers were dealing with. They were able to verify this was true due to a couple bruises but it was undetermined where the bruises actually came from since he knees were skinned up. So cps was at her door once again following up and doing their investigation. My friend got fed up with it and told them they could only contact her via email and than later took it back and said they could only talk to her lawyer. Somehow or another she threatened to put her children in military school and it was obviously an empty threat - she can barely afford to buy their medications let alone put them in anything other than public schools.

So from what I've been told, they decided to proceed with child abuse charges and she went into court and was told of her plea bargin deal which is pleading guilty to 1 account of child abuse and the other 2 would be dropped. She would have supervised visitation, a fine, and now a criminal record which she's never had.

Well my friend said she wanted to take it to trial as she did not feel this was a fair deal and started asking me to be a character witness. Now before I can say yes or no to this, I understand I could get a subpeana either way but I'm on the fence about it because I refuse to lie on the stand so it wouldn't really help her and once I say no, it's almost a guarantee the prosecution will ask and if i still say no, that's where the subpeana could come into play.

I'm soo on the fence about this as she is a friend but her children do not deserve the hell she's put them thru. So I'm just asking what would you do? Stand up for the defense or the prosecution and know either way, it won't help my friend?


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by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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DragonMother10
by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:59 AM
You will be just as guilty if you don't tell the truth. I would drop a friend faster than a match that burned me if I found out they abused their kids. Shit, I would call CPS myself or kick their ass!
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SissyAnn141
by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:16 AM

 

Quoting DragonMother10:

You will be just as guilty if you don't tell the truth. I would drop a friend faster than a match that burned me if I found out they abused their kids. Shit, I would call CPS myself or kick their ass!

  Tell the truth, If she abuses' her kids, Do you really still want to be her friend ????

     ( I have only read the post I quoted,I have read no others)




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