My Son has no friends. Birthday situation.
He will be turning 6. His birthday is the 20th, we are having a party on the 23rd, BUT he has no friends. We don't know who to invite, he wants a party at the bowling alley which to me says a small group of friends, but no one in his class talks to him, they don't exclude him , but they don't really interact with him either. I asked his teacher and she said virtually the same thing, so I thought OH OH church we can invite people from church, but we run into the same issue, you see my son is Autistic. So he doesn't really know that he is lacking in friends to him this is perfectly normal. So I am at a loss for what to do on his birthday, I can't send invites to everyone and hope some show, what if others take pity on him and everyone shows up, or what if no one does??? The bowling is 14 dollars per person, I think that includes shoes... but I am not too sure what it all includes and just seems so harsh. We usually go to the park, but the thing is the weather, so not really sure what to do. It's gonna be cold and it would have rained the day before.. I think just going to chuck e cheese with who ever and doing that would be nice, how much should I spend on tokens for the other kids???
He is high functioning Autistic, but I just thought of something else.. he doesn't do really well in crowds with loud noises... he isn't rocking or anything extreme, but just not sure if he would really enjoy a Saturday at Chuck E Cheese. He has only gone on really slow days, he did well then, but they kinda turned down the volume on some of the games, and the flashing lights, they kinda have this Autistic awareness thing.
Also something small with just the family isn't really a thing I want to do. My parents are rather ill so they tend to not go, or leave very early. It is also kind of a down when they complain the whole time they are out. So that isn't going to happen. It would be me his sister and his dad, and that doesn't seem like a celebration.
A few people have mentioned meeting some of the parents of the kids in the classroom. There is no possible way to do this, to pick kids up there is a drive through line, you aren't allowed out of the car and most of them do not speak English, I know this as the PTO meetings take ages as they glare at the small section that is English speaking as they wish it was only in spanish, and frankly I get them cause the meetings would be over much fast if they only had to do one language.
Update: So today when picking up son's meds in Walgreen's this little boy was like OH Hi Alexander, and I got talking to the mom about his party. They call him Alexander at school. If just for anyone who wonders cause I refer to him as Leith. Anyways I invited her, and am gonna send invites to school regardless, we are gonna hope this works. Have a party at the park with kinda of a make your own bowling, with a basket ball and soda bottles type of thing, then announce we would be doing bowling after if anyone wants to attend it would be a pay your own way type of thing.
Update: So so is set on having a party in the park, the person from Walgreens backed out, and the invites we sent to his class no one responded to. Not sure a single person will come and tomorrow is the big day. While I sit here trying not to cry I don't know what to do. I can't force people to come.