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Son not invited to his daycare party!!

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OMG so I was scrolling through facebook all of a sudden I see some pictures tagged. I am friends with some of the other parents at daycare and friends with my sons daycare on facebook. It is an inhome daycare. The tagged pictures say Daycare Social 2013! We never got an invite to the daycare party. There is 11 kids that go to her daycare. I highly doubt she just forgot us. I think she purposely didnt invite us for some reason. She usually would invite us through facebook and invite me AND my husband. Neither of us got any invites. and then she would usually ask me when i would pick him up or through text or facebook if we are planning attending so she could get a count. She never mentioned it. She also never posted anything on facebook about it which is really bizarre. Makes me feel like she is trying to hide it. She usually has a social every year this time of year. After the party her and her boyfriend post a huge thank you and how much fun they had. This year I saw none of it unless she hid it from me and my husband. She usually has a book together which all the daycare kids fill out a few pages about them and pictures and at this party she kind of shows it off to all the families. We did the pages but didnt get to see the whole thing put together. Just really annoyed, hurt, and mad. My son is only 2 but how can you invite all the other kids and leave one out. Really just need to vent and hear what you other moms think.

by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 11:29 PM
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Maladro
by Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:08 AM

That's one of the one million reasons I would have never put my kids at an in home day care, I am sure you can find a day care with reasonable rates/prices that are professional and treat all the kids equally and the events are for everybody and not only to this or that kids. A lot more structure and better professional environment.

rgba
by Gold Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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Stop jumping to conclusions. Ask her. She is your daycare provider, you have a right to know.

Don't be emotional about it. Simply say "I noticed that you had the daycare social. We didn't get an invitation. Is there a reason for that?" And see what she says.


Quoting Caitlinmari:

 




Quoting nebcutie:

I think i would talk to her and take my child out of there too. Let us know what she says.



 I am going to and I am pretty sure i will be taking my son out of daycare. I am completely shocked after finding all of this out.


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rgba
by Gold Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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She is your daycare provider. Be professional. Pick up the phone and CALL her. No need for a big teary letter when you have zero idea what happened. Honestly, this letter sounds very immature.


Quoting Caitlinmari:

 




Quoting sarah824:


It doens't need to be confrontational, but you will never know unless you ask. Maybe she left you out for a reason. Wouldn't you want to know what that reason is?


Quoting Caitlinmari:


 


 


Quoting sarah824:


Before jumping to any conclusions I would call her and ask her about it.


 


 I am thinking about asking her I really hate confrontations so I might just say nothing at all. It is just so weird cause she is so on top of it with everything very organized etc. And I have been to her daycare for almost 4 years now cause I have an older son and every year she does the facebook invite inviting me and my husband. So she could have accidentally forgotten to invite us both. And then always asks us again if we are coming to get a count but never mentioned anything.


 


I am writing you this because I saw that you had a daycare social 2013 party and for whatever reason you did not invite us or even mention anything to us about this. I found out through seeing on my facebook the tagged pictures of it. I am not sure why you would not invite Carter and our family to this party but yet you invited every other family and went out of your way to block us from your postings about it. This was very hurtful to our family. I don’t why you excluded us but we have been with you for almost 4 years and was welcome to every other daycare gathering. We find this unprofessional and are very disappointed. Carter will no longer be coming to your daycare. If you go out of your way to exclude us, we do not feel very welcomed.


this is my letter i have put together for her.


 


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EsmeVincent
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:17 AM
I don't see how asking could hurt...its better to know before you get too upset
kolbiesmommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:17 AM
So anything this morning as an update??
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Caitlinmari
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:26 AM

Well she just texted me and said hi can you call me? Very strange. 


Quoting kolbiesmommy:

So anything this morning as an update??


 

sarah824
by Silver Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 11:00 AM

I still say you are overreacting without talking to her first. 

Quoting Caitlinmari:

She could be cutting expenses but if your a daycare owner you dont have a DAYCARE party and not invite one kid. And yes most of the kids were in the picture except another friend of mine whos daughters go there they were invited but couldnt make it. She should have said something like for full time kids we will be having a daycare party but she was sneaky and hid it. and no he is not the youngest. Also if I had to ask her it would be when i pick him up from daycare cause thats the only time I see her since my husband drops off. and I dont know if I want to bring him there. My other friend whos son went there the daycare lady sent her a facebook message saying here is your tax information dont lose it cause I wont send it again. Pretty much telling my friend she wouldnt take her son anymore and my friend wasnt expecting it so I dont mind that it would be on facebook. but i put it like this if your child was in a class room. they had a classroom party with all the kids and the teacher didnt invite him then went out of her way to hide posts or information about it from your family. Its different if it was some birthday party for her kid or something but since it was a DAYCARE social its just weird.

 

Quoting sarah824:

I think you are jumping to conclusions and being immature by writing a letter instead of just asking her face to face. By automatically yanking your kid out of her care she no longer owes you an explanation and you will go on feeling left out. Why not give her the opportunity to explain herself? Is you son the youngest at the daycare? Is he the only child that only goes 1 day a week? Are you 100% positive that he was the ONLY child not invited? Maybe she had to cut expenses for the party this year so whe went by age or attendance or some other valid reason. I do not think you are handling properly without speaking to her face to face. JMHO

Quoting Caitlinmari:

 

 

Quoting sarah824:

It doens't need to be confrontational, but you will never know unless you ask. Maybe she left you out for a reason. Wouldn't you want to know what that reason is?

Quoting Caitlinmari:

 

 

Quoting sarah824:

Before jumping to any conclusions I would call her and ask her about it.

 

 I am thinking about asking her I really hate confrontations so I might just say nothing at all. It is just so weird cause she is so on top of it with everything very organized etc. And I have been to her daycare for almost 4 years now cause I have an older son and every year she does the facebook invite inviting me and my husband. So she could have accidentally forgotten to invite us both. And then always asks us again if we are coming to get a count but never mentioned anything.

 

I am writing you this because I saw that you had a daycare social 2013 party and for whatever reason you did not invite us or even mention anything to us about this. I found out through seeing on my facebook the tagged pictures of it. I am not sure why you would not invite Carter and our family to this party but yet you invited every other family and went out of your way to block us from your postings about it. This was very hurtful to our family. I don’t why you excluded us but we have been with you for almost 4 years and was welcome to every other daycare gathering. We find this unprofessional and are very disappointed. Carter will no longer be coming to your daycare. If you go out of your way to exclude us, we do not feel very welcomed.

this is my letter i have put together for her. 

 

 

 

Caitlinmari
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 11:11 AM

 Now she texted me to call her so I did. She asked if he is coming tomorrow and if he got his TB test. Which is very strange because she never calls unless its something big and usually she would just text me and ask if he got his tb test adn I told her friday I was taking him in on Monday to get it. but this is her status Love that I own my own business and make the rules. I could NEVER answer to anyone again, and am confident in my choices/rules. Oh yea and happy Tuesday! :).. Ok probably nothing to do with us but I feel like this is kind of stating she doesnt need to explain why she didnt include carter(i am sure she probably noticed that my husband deleted her, I know that was foolish I told him not to do it but hes like why I dont care they post annoying thigns anyway). I havent talked to her yet because I am not sure what I want to do still gathering my thoughts. 


Quoting sarah824:

I still say you are overreacting without talking to her first. 

Quoting Caitlinmari:

She could be cutting expenses but if your a daycare owner you dont have a DAYCARE party and not invite one kid. And yes most of the kids were in the picture except another friend of mine whos daughters go there they were invited but couldnt make it. She should have said something like for full time kids we will be having a daycare party but she was sneaky and hid it. and no he is not the youngest. Also if I had to ask her it would be when i pick him up from daycare cause thats the only time I see her since my husband drops off. and I dont know if I want to bring him there. My other friend whos son went there the daycare lady sent her a facebook message saying here is your tax information dont lose it cause I wont send it again. Pretty much telling my friend she wouldnt take her son anymore and my friend wasnt expecting it so I dont mind that it would be on facebook. but i put it like this if your child was in a class room. they had a classroom party with all the kids and the teacher didnt invite him then went out of her way to hide posts or information about it from your family. Its different if it was some birthday party for her kid or something but since it was a DAYCARE social its just weird.

 

Quoting sarah824:

I think you are jumping to conclusions and being immature by writing a letter instead of just asking her face to face. By automatically yanking your kid out of her care she no longer owes you an explanation and you will go on feeling left out. Why not give her the opportunity to explain herself? Is you son the youngest at the daycare? Is he the only child that only goes 1 day a week? Are you 100% positive that he was the ONLY child not invited? Maybe she had to cut expenses for the party this year so whe went by age or attendance or some other valid reason. I do not think you are handling properly without speaking to her face to face. JMHO

Quoting Caitlinmari:

 

 

Quoting sarah824:

It doens't need to be confrontational, but you will never know unless you ask. Maybe she left you out for a reason. Wouldn't you want to know what that reason is?

Quoting Caitlinmari:

 

 

Quoting sarah824:

Before jumping to any conclusions I would call her and ask her about it.

 

 I am thinking about asking her I really hate confrontations so I might just say nothing at all. It is just so weird cause she is so on top of it with everything very organized etc. And I have been to her daycare for almost 4 years now cause I have an older son and every year she does the facebook invite inviting me and my husband. So she could have accidentally forgotten to invite us both. And then always asks us again if we are coming to get a count but never mentioned anything.

 

I am writing you this because I saw that you had a daycare social 2013 party and for whatever reason you did not invite us or even mention anything to us about this. I found out through seeing on my facebook the tagged pictures of it. I am not sure why you would not invite Carter and our family to this party but yet you invited every other family and went out of your way to block us from your postings about it. This was very hurtful to our family. I don’t why you excluded us but we have been with you for almost 4 years and was welcome to every other daycare gathering. We find this unprofessional and are very disappointed. Carter will no longer be coming to your daycare. If you go out of your way to exclude us, we do not feel very welcomed.

this is my letter i have put together for her. 

 

 

 


 

rgba
by Gold Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 11:29 AM
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Perhaps it's just my pregnancy hormones, but this post is making me crabby. You had her on the phone, and instead of asking her about it, you are obsessing about some random facebook post?

You are a mom, and a grown up. If this is bothering you, pick up the damn phone and call her. Ask her why your son was not invited.

If you are unhappy with the answer, pull your kid from daycare. But stop freaking out about it without knowing. You sound like a twelve year old.


Quoting Caitlinmari:

 Now she texted me to call her so I did. She asked if he is coming tomorrow and if he got his TB test. Which is very strange because she never calls unless its something big and usually she would just text me and ask if he got his tb test adn I told her friday I was taking him in on Monday to get it. but this is her status Love that I own my own business and make the rules. I could NEVER answer to anyone again, and am confident in my choices/rules. Oh yea and happy Tuesday! :).. Ok probably nothing to do with us but I feel like this is kind of stating she doesnt need to explain why she didnt include carter(i am sure she probably noticed that my husband deleted her, I know that was foolish I told him not to do it but hes like why I dont care they post annoying thigns anyway). I havent talked to her yet because I am not sure what I want to do still gathering my thoughts. 




Quoting sarah824:


I still say you are overreacting without talking to her first. 


Quoting Caitlinmari:


She could be cutting expenses but if your a daycare owner you dont have a DAYCARE party and not invite one kid. And yes most of the kids were in the picture except another friend of mine whos daughters go there they were invited but couldnt make it. She should have said something like for full time kids we will be having a daycare party but she was sneaky and hid it. and no he is not the youngest. Also if I had to ask her it would be when i pick him up from daycare cause thats the only time I see her since my husband drops off. and I dont know if I want to bring him there. My other friend whos son went there the daycare lady sent her a facebook message saying here is your tax information dont lose it cause I wont send it again. Pretty much telling my friend she wouldnt take her son anymore and my friend wasnt expecting it so I dont mind that it would be on facebook. but i put it like this if your child was in a class room. they had a classroom party with all the kids and the teacher didnt invite him then went out of her way to hide posts or information about it from your family. Its different if it was some birthday party for her kid or something but since it was a DAYCARE social its just weird.


 


Quoting sarah824:


I think you are jumping to conclusions and being immature by writing a letter instead of just asking her face to face. By automatically yanking your kid out of her care she no longer owes you an explanation and you will go on feeling left out. Why not give her the opportunity to explain herself? Is you son the youngest at the daycare? Is he the only child that only goes 1 day a week? Are you 100% positive that he was the ONLY child not invited? Maybe she had to cut expenses for the party this year so whe went by age or attendance or some other valid reason. I do not think you are handling properly without speaking to her face to face. JMHO


Quoting Caitlinmari:


 


 


Quoting sarah824:


It doens't need to be confrontational, but you will never know unless you ask. Maybe she left you out for a reason. Wouldn't you want to know what that reason is?


Quoting Caitlinmari:


 


 


Quoting sarah824:


Before jumping to any conclusions I would call her and ask her about it.


 


 I am thinking about asking her I really hate confrontations so I might just say nothing at all. It is just so weird cause she is so on top of it with everything very organized etc. And I have been to her daycare for almost 4 years now cause I have an older son and every year she does the facebook invite inviting me and my husband. So she could have accidentally forgotten to invite us both. And then always asks us again if we are coming to get a count but never mentioned anything.


 


I am writing you this because I saw that you had a daycare social 2013 party and for whatever reason you did not invite us or even mention anything to us about this. I found out through seeing on my facebook the tagged pictures of it. I am not sure why you would not invite Carter and our family to this party but yet you invited every other family and went out of your way to block us from your postings about it. This was very hurtful to our family. I don’t why you excluded us but we have been with you for almost 4 years and was welcome to every other daycare gathering. We find this unprofessional and are very disappointed. Carter will no longer be coming to your daycare. If you go out of your way to exclude us, we do not feel very welcomed.


this is my letter i have put together for her. 


 


 


 




 


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kansasmom1978
by Katie on Feb. 19, 2013 at 11:32 AM

 Unless she completely blocked you from her page that is not possible. She can't block you from one post.


Quoting Caitlinmari:

 

 

Quoting kansasmom1978:

I would not jump to conclusions. It might have been an oversight, a mistake

 

 Well its hard to not jump to conclusions when my friend said that the daycare lady had a post the day before she even went back to check on it and it was still showing. It said something like Daycare Families: Remember tomorrow is the social! Dont eat dinner there will be pizza and ice cream!!.. When I went to look its not there. So its hard to believe she accidentally didnt invite us and accidentally went out of her way to block us from seeing that specific post. Cause she does know how to hide people from seeing her status as she has posted things about her boyfriend asking what to get him as gifts and etc and would post I hid this post from him so he cant see it.


 

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