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Son not invited to his daycare party!!

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OMG so I was scrolling through facebook all of a sudden I see some pictures tagged. I am friends with some of the other parents at daycare and friends with my sons daycare on facebook. It is an inhome daycare. The tagged pictures say Daycare Social 2013! We never got an invite to the daycare party. There is 11 kids that go to her daycare. I highly doubt she just forgot us. I think she purposely didnt invite us for some reason. She usually would invite us through facebook and invite me AND my husband. Neither of us got any invites. and then she would usually ask me when i would pick him up or through text or facebook if we are planning attending so she could get a count. She never mentioned it. She also never posted anything on facebook about it which is really bizarre. Makes me feel like she is trying to hide it. She usually has a social every year this time of year. After the party her and her boyfriend post a huge thank you and how much fun they had. This year I saw none of it unless she hid it from me and my husband. She usually has a book together which all the daycare kids fill out a few pages about them and pictures and at this party she kind of shows it off to all the families. We did the pages but didnt get to see the whole thing put together. Just really annoyed, hurt, and mad. My son is only 2 but how can you invite all the other kids and leave one out. Really just need to vent and hear what you other moms think.

by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 11:29 PM
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Caitlinmari
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:02 AM

 


Quoting C8linVilla:

Simply write her a FB message or text saying *is there some reason we were not invited to the party? Is there something we need to discuss*

I mean You send your child to be in the care with her during the day and she hides statuses from you. thats a bit shadey! She by no means has to invite you but she needs to be a big girl and simply come out and say her issues with you. I would be asking her if there was an issue and ask if you should be looking for another daycare. 

I am going to write her a message. But I think i am going to take him out too. Because if I confront her on it I dont want there to be some sort of tension and bring my son there and there is an awkwardness between them. We plan on moving soon anyways and I could make it work where I dontneed to bring him there I just brought him one day a week for half a day sometimes a day if I did work. But if I didnt work I still brought him just to socialize.

 

liliem
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:07 AM
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If your son is only there a couple hours a week, maybe she doesn't consider that as a member. I'm not arguing whether you are or not, just trying to figure out what could possibly be going on in her head. Maybe she's rationalizing it that way? Or could you have possibly rubbed her the wrong way at anytime or maybe did something to make her fell like you took advantage of her? Seems like an awefully lot of trouble not inviting you or wanting to spend money on the extra people. I hope you find what your looking for and are able to put this to rest and get past it. Hope it all works out, and it usually does for the best!

Caitlinmari
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:20 AM

 


Quoting liliem:

If your son is only there a couple hours a week, maybe she doesn't consider that as a member. I'm not arguing whether you are or not, just trying to figure out what could possibly be going on in her head. Maybe she's rationalizing it that way? Or could you have possibly rubbed her the wrong way at anytime or maybe did something to make her fell like you took advantage of her? Seems like an awefully lot of trouble not inviting you or wanting to spend money on the extra people. I hope you find what your looking for and are able to put this to rest and get past it. Hope it all works out, and it usually does for the best!


 Well like I have said before we have been there for 4 years. We used to do 2 days a week now its just one. I dont see any reason why she wouldnt include him cause she included him in the book for this year that she makes every year about the daycare kids. I had to decorate the pages and put pictures on it for him. And this party is like the presentation of the book. We have come to every other party and now she stops she always prides herself on how shes the only 5 star rated daycare in our town thats in home and nationally accredited etc but this wasnt very professional and why would she go out of her way to hide it from us and go out of her way to select me and my husband to not view her status. And no I never say anything to her to rub her the wrong way I am always very nice and never even really talk to her much when I pick up my son i just say how was his day and we leave. so i dont know I am just very upset. I used to really enjoy this daycare but I am questioning it and a year ago a boy got abused at his home and since he was in her care within the 12 hours of him going to the ER and she didnt report anything they closed her daycare for investigation and she was really quick to ask me to write her a letter to the state saying how great she was. She even watched my boys on our wedding night. Its just very strange how this is such a secret. and every single family was invited except ours. a shame.

nebcutie
by Gold Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:28 AM
I think i would talk to her and take my child out of there too. Let us know what she says.
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gigis1
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:31 AM
just ask her :/
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Caitlinmari
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:39 AM

 


Quoting nebcutie:

I think i would talk to her and take my child out of there too. Let us know what she says.


 I am going to and I am pretty sure i will be taking my son out of daycare. I am completely shocked after finding all of this out.

trainlady
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:30 AM
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Well first off I would ask her if she is planning on her annual party. This way it doesn't insinuate that you know you have been over looked. Second as someone else said it may have been an oversight and not intentional. Since you have been there every year for 4 years its unlikely she over looked you. For the time being just call it an oversight until you know different.

kansasmom1978
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:34 AM

I would not jump to conclusions. It might have been an oversight, a mistake

madwifa
by Robin on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:35 AM

 :(

kansasmom1978
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:35 AM

How can he have been there 4 years? You said he was 2


Quoting Caitlinmari:



Quoting liliem:

If your son is only there a couple hours a week, maybe she doesn't consider that as a member. I'm not arguing whether you are or not, just trying to figure out what could possibly be going on in her head. Maybe she's rationalizing it that way? Or could you have possibly rubbed her the wrong way at anytime or maybe did something to make her fell like you took advantage of her? Seems like an awefully lot of trouble not inviting you or wanting to spend money on the extra people. I hope you find what your looking for and are able to put this to rest and get past it. Hope it all works out, and it usually does for the best!


 Well like I have said before we have been there for 4 years. We used to do 2 days a week now its just one. I dont see any reason why she wouldnt include him cause she included him in the book for this year that she makes every year about the daycare kids. I had to decorate the pages and put pictures on it for him. And this party is like the presentation of the book. We have come to every other party and now she stops she always prides herself on how shes the only 5 star rated daycare in our town thats in home and nationally accredited etc but this wasnt very professional and why would she go out of her way to hide it from us and go out of her way to select me and my husband to not view her status. And no I never say anything to her to rub her the wrong way I am always very nice and never even really talk to her much when I pick up my son i just say how was his day and we leave. so i dont know I am just very upset. I used to really enjoy this daycare but I am questioning it and a year ago a boy got abused at his home and since he was in her care within the 12 hours of him going to the ER and she didnt report anything they closed her daycare for investigation and she was really quick to ask me to write her a letter to the state saying how great she was. She even watched my boys on our wedding night. Its just very strange how this is such a secret. and every single family was invited except ours. a shame.



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