Is there anybody out there who has an adult child with a child who takes no responsibility to help herself, still lives at home and is disrespectful. She has $0 income and won't even do her or her son's laundry or load a dishwasher. If it were just her, I'd be more likely to confront her, but she uses!

Uses as in drugs? Who else is there besides her and the child that you can not approach her about being a real adult, not a teenager stuck in an adult body.



She uses you or she uses drugs? How old is your grandson?
My daughter can be lazy when she is visiting, it's like "oh, yeah... break time, mom will take care of it all" but she lives with her husband and works two jobs, so when she is visiting it really IS a break for her and I don't mind, most of the time. In your situation I would give your daughter the boot. Tell her she needs to shape up and take care of her kid, get a job, etc. If she is using drugs I would call CPS and try to get custody of the child.

I grew up watching my mom coddle my sisters. She'd pay their bills so they wouldn't get disconnected/evicted or late CC payments, loans, ins..you name it & her wallet was open..me - she couldn't loan me $5 for toilet paper. I don't want that, I wished they were treated like me so they wouldn't be so irresponsible. I like the fact EVERYTHING I have is because of me and my DH, and not a handout from mom.
Tell ya what...take a few day "vacation" and tell her it's all hers..lol Just hang with a friend, bunk over, and let your daughter clean her own mess, buy her own gas, and figure her stuff out...tomorrow is never a promise.

- MtnMuse
on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:48 AM