I am about to lose my mind. *UPDATE 2-21, it got way worse**
Let me start by saying i am so tired i could pass out. my head hurts, eyes hurt, i am so exhausted. i am up all night with my newborn. getting no sleep at all except an hour or so. I just had a baby 5 days ago. My husband's parents are here to help me. They just went to a hotel because my mom just got here and they wanted to give her the guest room. My mom is being selfish and is constantly being sarcastic about every thing. I mean, I have never seen anything like this. She is usually sarcastic and thinks it is really funny but doesn't realize she is rude and no one is laughing. Since she has been here (just one day so far) she has called my dd (1 year old) a piglet, octopus, naughty, a little monkey, etc. so basically just really negative and cannot help but call her names. She isn't helpful at all with my kids. She keeps doing odd things in front if my husbands parents, whom she just met for the first time today. They are super modest, quiet, simple people. They don't crack jokes or talk a lot. They are very, very reserved. I told my mom this many times just to give her an idea if their personality. So she meets them today and right off the bat, starts with sarcastic remarks about her my dd (they're granddaughter), we went all went or dinner and she starts dancing in the car to some to some song in a really silly way while his parents are looking like wth is she doing, we drive by a tattoo place and she says, "okay let's all get tattoos and body piercings", she takes forever to order from the menu and hold everyone up because she can't decide ( she has always been so difficult to deal with. Nothing is ever easy with her). She is attention-seeking so bad it is making me cringe. My husband's parents probably think she is crazy. This is really just a few things and I can't type it all. I am really upset that my mom is acting like this. She knows I am really sensitive about his parents because they didn't want him to marry me because I am not of their culture. I am exhausted, overtired from staying up all night with newborn. How can she do this?
My mom has been progressively getting worse as the days pass. She is not helping me with the kids and she barely spends time with them. Mind you, we paid for her plane ticket ($500) to come here and see her new grandchild and also her other grandkids. She pouts over every little thing. Huffs and puffs about everything. Is very sarcastic about everything. I have tried to get along with her but it is so hard. I feel like she is just picking at me and trying to make me explode. Well, finally I just told her today that I cannot stand to be around her because she is so negative and she's not helping me. I told her she is not understanding of how tired I am because I just had a baby 6 days ago and also I stay up all night with a newborn. Her response, "Oh yeah, we've heard all about how tired you are all day long. You should have thought about that before you decided to have 3 kids." She is very sarcastic and rude. She has decided to leave our house today. She has all of her bags packed and is waiting for the rental car people to pick her up. I have walked over to her and told her she doesn't have to go and we can try to have a good time the remaining days. She said she is not interested and she just wants to leave. I feel guilty now even though I am not the one that has caused this. Why do I feel so bad when she doesn't even care?