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Thoughts: Man Awarded $40k after DNA proves kids are not his

Posted by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:35 AM
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Have you ever wondered if you were raising another man’s child?

We sure hope not! This sounds like something you’d hear on a soap opera.

Unfortunately, that was the nagging question on Richard Rodwell’s mind soon after his marriage to his wife Helen fell apart.

As their marriage began deteriorating, Helen would disappear for several days at a time without letting her family know where she was. And when she would return and he would ask where she had been, she would say, “It has nothing to do with you.” This woman would never even leave a note or message letting her husband or children in on her whereabouts.

Come to find out, the daughter and son he had raised into their teenage years were not even his. The poor man finally caught on to her deception when rumors started floating around that his daughter Laura, now 20, was someone else’s. And this is after the fact that Helen was granted custody of the children and he was paying child support every month for four years, which totaled around $25,000.

“People said that Laura didn’t look like me and that Helen had been seeing a teacher who lived next door on the caravan park,” explained Rodwell. “I confronted Helen on the phone but she insisted that I was Laura’s father. Finally, I said I wanted DNA testing.”

Geneticists have been seeing rising cases of deception, infidelity and adultery among couples, which has recently made DNA testing very popular. For a man that once thought he had it all (happily married, two healthy children, a house and a good paying job), he was so terribly wrong!

The DNA testing was done with a swab of Laura’s mouth and when the results came back, Mr. Rodwell was floored. “When I saw the letter stating that I was not Laura’s father I just broke down. I phoned Helen and we had an argument. She didn’t even say sorry,” he said in distress.

In fact, the DNA tests revealed that the children had two separate fathers!

“I still have no idea who Adam’s father is,” he said. “For nearly 17 years I have cared for Laura as my daughter and for Adam for over 14 years and now it’s all gone. It’s so sad.”

Following the results, the children cut off all contact with him. He claims his ex-wife turned them against him. “I would have been happy to have a close relationship with them as a stepfather but Helen wouldn’t allow this and told them to keep away from me,” Rodwell explains.

Recently, he was awarded nearly $40,000 in damages after suing his ex-wife for deceit. The court treated his case similar to bereavement, awarding an amount like the one you would receive if your child died in an accident. In this particular case, the judge even went further than that due to the level of deceit, as well as taking into account the fact that Mr. Rodwell’s second wife is too old to provide him with children. He also won a court order, which forced his wife to move out of their marital home.

When speaking for the first time since the controversial case, Rodwell said, “It’s like a bereavement because I have lost the children that I believed were mine. I treated them both as if they were my own. I was there at their births, went to their nativity plays and helped them with school homework.”

It’s hard to imagine such a thing even happening, but if it wasn’t for the whispering campaign that was going around, he may have never known the truth.

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bellawomen
by Summer on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:38 AM
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Personally, I think he had EVERY right to know.  I am sad that he felt the need to ask for a DNA test, but she had questionable actions that called for one.

I think its fucked up that his children cut off all contact with him like HE is the bad guy.  WTF is wrong with that?

Paperfishies
by Platinum Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:38 AM
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He deserves ALL of his money back PLUS some, and his skanky whore of an ex wife should be in jail for fraud of some kind.  Horrible.

Rlmama00
by Bronze Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:40 AM
It's nice that he can recoup some of his money but the whole situation sucks for him and those kids. What a mess!
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Yurixsi
by Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:45 AM
Wow. Thats sad he raised the kids and they cut off contact. Im glad they awarded him that money.
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Lionpaw
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:54 AM
It's sad. :(

I know dh's first wife cheated and needed dna tests to figure out who might be dad. Some kids its still questionable since no test has been done. Knowing for him doesn't matter because they are his boys, he's been there for them in everything.

It would break his heart if they did cut contact like that.

I feel badly for the guy. 40 k! Money really doesn't fix that.
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afwifeandmommy3
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:56 AM
This . I do not believe if men are shown not to be the father that they should pay for children . I hope one day this law changes

Quoting Paperfishies:

He deserves ALL of his money back PLUS some, and his skanky whore of an ex wife should be in jail for fraud of some kind.  Horrible.

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areid1023
by Platinum Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 4:04 AM


wait, what? he wasnt shown not to be the father until years later when he questioned it, as far as i understand, and the laws ruled in his favor. they awarded him back-child support and punitive damages. what law is it that you want changed?

Quoting afwifeandmommy3:

This . I do not believe if men are shown not to be the father that they should pay for children . I hope one day this law changes

Quoting Paperfishies:

He deserves ALL of his money back PLUS some, and his skanky whore of an ex wife should be in jail for fraud of some kind.  Horrible.



 my little bug! 11-29-08

TaralynnStewart
by Silver Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 5:11 AM
That's so sad! 40K is nothing for the heartache he now has to live with. Those kids are old enough to make their own decision and to just cut him off from being dad is awful
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LHummel
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:22 AM
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What a horrible woman. So sad. Just because he's not their biological father he was their father. Fathers are those that raise you not contribute to your DNA. I can not believe they would cut all ties with him that's terrible.

NDADanceMom
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 7:27 AM
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I feel for the guy but i know my husband wouldn't want a DNA test. Even if the kids came out another race he would claim them as his own. He would rather have the kids than the money or revenge.
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