Are these signs of an abusive relationship?? Please HELP
My best friend of 20 fucking years met another man while she was still married, yes, she was almost at the verge of a divorce, but still living together with her husband. I always said I’d support her as long as she was happy. So she finally asked her husband to leave and immediately this new guy moves in with her. We start talking less often, and when I call or text her he’d always answer. After 2 weeks of not talking to her -she’s my gym buddy- I got this text at 5:20 in the morning. I don’t see it till I wake up around 6:30.
This is my best friend. A month ago she told me this new guy had forced her to perform oral sex on him, and she called me crying. She said she was leaving him for good. She was hysterical. I cried with her and I told her she needed to make a police report, bus she was afraid because she has 3 kids and her divorce is in process and those things could affect her.
I’m sure he’s forcing her somehow. This man installed a GPS in her truck and convinced her to download the fiend friends app so they could always know where each other were. I warned her once of the warning signs of an abusive relationship but she blew me off saying it was because HE LOVED HER TOO MUCH, and it was KINDA CUTE.
At the end, he took the phone and threatened me.
I’m fucking upset. This is NOT a 1 year frienship, this is not a 5, 10, or 15 years friendship. THIS IS A FUCKING 20 YEAR OLD FRIENDSHIP. She knows I’ve been there for her and she was for me when I separated from my husband. I can’t even begin to fathom what could be going through her head to act like that.
Is there something I can do? I can't even get close to her now. IDK what to here. This guy is dangerous. His past two wives left him because of the same reasons. What to do???