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Is this being rude? Re: birthday party - Poll included

Posted by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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Question: Would you give the cupcake before singing?

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I recently had a party for my DD. it was at my daughters dance school . There was one child whos son came but didnt want to participate in the kids activity. the mom wasnt there, he was with the grandma. so this child ( my close friends son) wants to eat cupcake before we sing HB. ( party is from 2-3:30 to dance, play and have a snack)  

I OFFERED the child pretzels instead , and prob said something like after we sing you can have a cupcake but if hungry there are pretzels . ( this was at a place that didn't have other foods ) I brought juice and snacks . 

My friend thought that wasn't nice or caring of me? I just thought it was etiquette that you wait till after you sing. I thought that was the NORM.  I didn't think it was a big deal. I def dont want people upset with me, but shouldnt there be limits set?the upsetting part was she took it personally . Ad didn't tell me how upset she was about it for a week.

But if there's a next time situation with a friend or acquaintance what should I do? Lets please keep this nice as I'm guessing this could have diff opinions.


Thank you! 

by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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beadingmom17
by Rachel on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:16 PM
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Uh, you did everything right as far as I'm concerned! You sing and then you get cake/a cupcake. Could you imagine the absolute freaking chaos it would be if you had caved?!
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shaunaleigh418
by Platinum Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:19 PM
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Why would someone else's kid get a cupcake before MY kid/the birthday kid? He was just being picky. Like I always tell my girls, if you're hungry, you'll eat what I give you.
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kellysparkles
by Bronze Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:23 PM
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So if you had a cake instead you'd have to cut that just for him? No. You did right..other mom is just..I can't think of a good word lol.
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MusherMaggie
by Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:24 PM
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No, you offered an alternative. Kids have to learn to follow rules.
MamaCourtney617
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:25 PM

You are right here, this is normal party etiquette.  Cake/cupcakes is always at the end of a party

BluePandaDreams
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:27 PM
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Nope. I would have done the same thing. There is no way some whiny, picky child is going to dip into the birthday cake before my kid.
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sam12796
by Sandy on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:31 PM
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 You are not wrong. It is customary for the birthday child to get the first piece of cake whether it be a cupcake or slice of cake. You were not being rude or uncaring. Grandma should have corrected him.

Jukebox_Jenny
by Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:33 PM
Nope, everyone can eat cake/ cupcakes at the same time.
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KayelynnsMama
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:33 PM
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Yea... You did NOTHING wrong. I'm pretty sure everyone knows that you get cake/cupcakes after singing. And you can't make an exception for one child without making an exception for all the kids.

valkay
by Silver Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 11:34 PM
How old was this kid?? You did right
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