Let's go back 8 years, I was a sixteen year old mom with another baby on the way. Realistically, I knew I wansn't going to be able to provide for two children holding a full time job at Target. My mom jumped in to take my second child as her own. We agreed since she wouldn't allow me to give her up for adoption, that she would be the "mother" and I would just be a "sister" in her life occasionally when I cam around. I signed over gaurdianship and went on with my life.
Time went on I was with my so 3 years thinking it would last forever. We had a child when I was 21. We broke up a little over a year later. He decided to leave us for the nanny(not that that's relevant). Now he wants full custody and to let me have some parent time. The other day he made a comment about my mom and if I've talked to her. No I havent talked to her in months.
Well, after having a conversation with my grandma today it's all piecing together why he'd ask....
My mom had a hearing for some part of that gaurdianship I guess last week. She didn't go and now has a warrant for her arrest-or had. She works for the court house, so naturally she was pissed. She went in to clear it up and told them that they need to focus on the two kids I have because they are the ones in an unstable home. She called my grandma and told her that my ex told her that I was stupid for not being able to afford my lawyer because he was going to tell the court that I'm an unfit mother because my four year old doesn't know all his letters of the alphabet (he only knows 75%, but seriously?) I went and vented to my grandpa who told me that my mom and ex are meeting occasionally at her house.
My thought would be that she no longer wants the kid I wanted to give up for adoption and as some sort of retaliation is trying to get my other children taken from me. Let's get real I'm a single mom so no my kids don't have everything their little heart desires. Yeah, they probably have three jeans they live in and out of that I have to wash constantly. I wouldn't say that makes me an unfit mother. I love my kids with all my heart and I do everything and anything that I can for them. My mom knows that. So, why she's teaming up with my ex is beyond me.
The whole court situation has me so rattled. I've raised my son almost two years not without have to share him (because his dad didn't care to see him but on holidays). So, I'm freaking out at the thought of not having him with me all the time. Knowing my mom is in on it too now, I just feel sick.
I guess she was saying that now CPS is involved. That's fine with me, I have no problem opening my life and home up to them. It's just the drama that is being caused so close to the hearing (in April) that upsets me.I'm just so angry I feel like I should do something. Like I should come up with something back to get her. The little voice inside me tells me it's immature and wrong but honestly what else can I do? Sit and wait while her and my ex try to tear my world apart? I've HEARD that she is taking more anxiety meds than what she is prescribed lately from her 27 year old boyfriend's mom. I feel like not only telling CPS but her employer.
Then there's that small voice of reason asking how could my mom really do this to me? Like my own mother? The mom I used to eat lunch with everyday. Sure we never got along until I hit maybe 20, but I cannot imagine doing something like this to y daughter. I'm just stuck. I have no idea what to do.