Gonna try to keep this short and understandable... :)
Okay so when in 2006, I adopted a 5 week old kitten. Once he was old enough, I took him straight to get fixed. He was such a happy kitty and so friendly. Fast forward to 2007. I became pregnant and moved in with my boyfriend (now husband.) His mom hates cats so she said Shadow could live in the basement, not on our floor. I was only 17 and didn't want to get rid of Shadow so I agreed. I would sit with him for a few hours in the basement everyday. In 2008 when I had my baby girl, things got hectic and unfortunately, I couldn't spend as much time with Shadow. Every now and then, I'd bring Leilah to the basement so she and Shadow could get to know each other. He still seemed okay. Still friendly. But as the years went on, I noticed he didn't really like people anymore. Now, if it's a good day, he'll let you pet him but when he's had enough he'll start swinging or trying to bite and then run away. At first I thought he was just trying to play but you see the hairs stand up or he'll growl and hiss. When you walk buy him to go outside, he'll swing at your legs or try to bite. He spends most of his time outside now and has for the last few years. He's made a lot of kitty friends though which I think is nice. Now, we finally saved up enough to move out and be comfortable. My husband has a great job and we're basically set. But, I'm worried. I want to take Shadow but he's just so mean now. I'm scared he'll attack the kids when I'm not around. I'm scared he'll scratch up all our furniture. The carpet on the stairs had to be replaced with linoleum (sp?) because he tore it up. The molding on the doors is all torn up. He ruined a lot of stuff. I tried getting him toys but he wanted nothing to do with them. Is it possible to train an outdoor cat to be an indoor cat again? Any tips or ideas? At this point it's either take him and let him ruin everything and possibly hurt one of us or bring him to the no kill shelter. Sadly, I have to lean towards the shelter. I would feel horrible if he hurt one of my girls.
I know this is all over the place and I apologize. I'm not that great with typing things out.