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Issues with Daycare. :/ *vent*LONG**ADVICE

I posted this earlier but am reposting because I was on my cell and now that I am on the computer I can explain the situation better.

My step son (he's my baby though), just turned two not too long ago and we haven't had custody very long. He was taken away from his mother because she beat the hell out of him, as well as neglected him, and she didn't have a stable home.

When we got DS, we put him in daycare twice a week so he could interact with kids his own age and what not. He really needed help with "social skills". We have had so many issues with him since getting custody, daycare was a huge step.

When we first started daycare, he absolutely loved it. He never cried and when it was time to go home for the day he didn't want to leave. Then, they got new "teachers" for his age group. We suddenly were faced with issues of biting and acting out randomly (issues we didn't have with his original teacher). At first, we really liked the new teacher but as time has passed, not so much. She seems way to eager to take DS from us in the mornings. We don't even make it two steps in the door and she is in our faces. She just "comes on too strong". My friends DD also goes to daycare here and is in the same room as DS. A few mornings back, she dropped her DD off and the teacher didn't give her breakfast. She told my friend that they were out and she should have dropped her off sooner (she drops her off at the same time daily and it has never been an issue).  My friend calls me yesterday and tells me our DS was crying still when she dropped her DD off (which is well after we have been gone, at least 30-45 minutes).

As time continues to pass things are getting more weird. We have had a "routine" when dropping DS off. First we go to his cubby and then we give him hugs and kisses. Sometimes, we read a quick story to make him comfortable. All of these things were never an issue with the old teachers. The new lady though, she follows us around like a f***ing dog! It's like we are under a microscope or something. Today when we pulled into the parking lot of the daycare, DS instantly starting crying and screaming like he was scared. I calmed him down and we took him inside. When we got in the classroom, I was snuggling DS still trying to keep him calm, the lady walks up and says, "Let me see your hands" for whatever reason. DS pulls his hands away screaming, "No No No" and starts crying all over again. . I have finally had enough of her not giving us our space so I told her, not so nicely, "Look lady, he has been through enough in his life now just give us some damn space and let us go through our morning routine!" She just looked at me. She didn't apologize or say anything at all for that matter. .

I have talked to the director of the daycare multiple times about multiple issues and she says she will address it, its not getting any better. A few days ago, a little boy hit a little girl on the head and the new lady just stood there, she didn't disipline him at all.! And then, a couple weeks ago she was screaming at them.

I'm just so fed up IDK what to do. I have a gut feeling that something isn't right but I don't know if I am overreacting or...? We are looking for a new daycare but aren't having any luck finding one that will take him only two days a week.

What do you mommas think about it all?! What would you do? Am I overreacting?



by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 8:22 PM
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by Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 9:00 PM

 I'm looking for a new daycare. There are TONS of them here. . I'm just struggling to find one that will take him part time. (we can't afford full time). . I've even considered opening an in home daycare so I can still bring in money but keep him from being there with that lady.

Quoting frndlyfn:

Ok working the same shift makes sense for needing childcare.   There are other ways for him to be around other children outside of daycare if it werent needed due to working.  Don't settle for this place if you do not feel comfortable with the changes.  I am sure there are many options where you live.


Quoting mommaalways247:

 HE HAS TO BE IN DAYCARE TWO DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK. Not only do we feel he needs to be around other children BUT, my husband and I work the same shift those two days. The rest of the week we work opposite shifts and are able to be home with him.







by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:10 AM

Pull him out of that daycare. 

by Gold Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:14 AM
Go for a full morning one day and observe. Then follow your gut.
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by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:04 AM
I'm not sure how big of a chain Anna's bananas is but its the only place I'd ever take my kids. If they have them in your area go there.
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by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:27 AM

My daughter goes to KinderCare--I know it's a nationwide chain and they vary widely between individual centers from what I understand, but we absolutely LOVE our center. Our daughter loves it there, she's never cried when we've dropped her off, and a lot of the time she doesn't want to leave.   :)  The teachers and center director are fantastic. Seriously, we have no complaints. (Except for the exorbitant price, but we're in MA so daycare is going to be ridiculous no matter what.)

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:36 AM
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Yeah. I'd definitely pull him. And be sure to let the director know exactly why you are putting your son somewhere else. Children shouldn't be scared to go to daycare!
Good luck mama!
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