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The "mean girl" years?

Posted by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:30 PM
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I just went to pick up my kid at her friend's house.  The mom, a close friend, is out of the country and the kids are being watched by the grandmother.  The grandmother spent most of the time inside, painting eggs with the little brother and two of his cousins and the older sister was outside playing with DD the whole time.  It's a small, upscale collection of condos and there are several families with kids.  DD and her friend were playing with some German boys a couple of houses down.  Nice kids, very sweet, respectful and smart.  I drive into the condo and park in my friend's carport and say hi to the grandmother through the window and start walking off to fetch DD.  The lady from the house across the way comes mincing out at a fast clip, heading right for me.  I'm already cringing because she, like her two DDs, is a total pain in the ass.   As she reaches me, she starts yammering at me in crappy English and I remind her I speak Spanish.  She wants to tell me something very important and she's obviously pissed off.  I see her DDs standing in the doorway of the house, smirking and looking smug.  She wants me to know that DD was "...listening to pornography on the computer..."  I ask what she means as DD and her friend and the boys appear from around the corner.  She says that DD was playing a "pornographic" song on the computer and her girls were offended and made to feel uncomfortable.  I look at DD and ask, "What were you watching?"  DD says she was watching a Youtube video of Florence Welch singing Sweet Nothing.  I roll my eyes and then something occurs to me.  "Were you watching the video with Clara and Juliana?" DD says, "Of course not, we never play with them, they're too mean.  They came over while we were watching the video and told us that if we didn't play dolls with them that we'd be sorry.  We told them to get lost.  Clara told us that if we played with Philip and Karl they would tell Oma that we were doing something bad.  We just ignored them."  The mom then tells me that my DD is lying and that her girls don't lie, ever.  This is the third time something like this happened and it's due to the same thing.  I decided to enlighten the mom.  "Your daughters have a crush on those two (pointing at the boys) and they don't like that my kid and her friend play with the boys.  That's the real issue here.  And I don't believe a word your girls say because you and I both know our kids don't ever play together."  I turned to walk away and she says something about how my kid and her friend would do anything for her two girls to be their friends, that they're the most popular girls in their school and how her girls only offer to play with DD and her friend to be "kind".  Okay, crazy, whatever.  The girls say goodbye to the boys and we all walk into the house and the grandmother says, "Those two girls are trouble and so is the mother.  The girls are boy crazy now and meaner than ever.  This is the start of the mean girl years."  Yikes.  Hadn't thought of it that way.  Does it all start so early?  At 11?  Really?

by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:30 PM
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KristenFowles
by Silver Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:32 PM

 Ohh.. Kids are fun.

                         


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RADmomma
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:34 PM
Oh man! At least your dd told the truth & you know to keep an eye on those 2 girls!
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RADmomma
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:34 PM
Oh man! At least your dd told the truth & you know to keep an eye on those 2 girls!
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frndlyfn
by Emerald Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:42 PM
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Yup 11 is about the age where girls really feel their claws. It is our job to keep the dramatics down and have a no nonsense policy about viewing videos.

inspain
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:44 PM

Gah!  She lies too, all kids do, but she seems to keep it to really stupid shit.  Like when I yell, "Are you dressed yet?" and she yells back, "Yes!" and then, half an hour later, I find her in the kitchen in her pajamas still.  

Those two girls give me the willies.  They're like a couple of little cobras.

Quoting RADmomma:

Oh man! At least your dd told the truth & you know to keep an eye on those 2 girls!


NDADanceMom
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:45 PM
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Im not sure why but this all seems completely made up.  Maybe its the odd details,  Like the kids names and whatnot.   

inspain
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:46 PM

Yeah, I know DD was only watching that video because I checked the computer history and that was the last thing she'd watched.  Before that she was watching some My LIttle Pony thing.

Quoting frndlyfn:

Yup 11 is about the age where girls really feel their claws. It is our job to keep the dramatics down and have a no nonsense policy about viewing videos.


inspain
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:48 PM

LOL, and here I added the names because when I just wrote "c" and "j", it looked weird!  I cannot win.  I'm too detail-y, right?  I couldn't figure out how to make it shorter.

Quoting NDADanceMom:

Im not sure why but this all seems completely made up.  Maybe its the odd details,  Like the kids names and whatnot.   


Momma-Bearof3
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:50 PM
Reading this gave me no hope to my hormonal dd. lmao! I thought she's bad at 7 with her mood swings and I am not looking forward to these years lol
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NDADanceMom
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:50 PM

you could have just said the mean girls next door are always making things up and causing problems.  The mom confronts you on things that arent her business.  The details of where you parked and such are so superfluous that it seems like some sort of essay. 

Quoting inspain:

LOL, and here I added the names because when I just wrote "c" and "j", it looked weird!  I cannot win.  I'm too detail-y, right?  I couldn't figure out how to make it shorter.

Quoting NDADanceMom:

Im not sure why but this all seems completely made up.  Maybe its the odd details,  Like the kids names and whatnot.   



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