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Am I THAT out of touch with reality?!

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I have been homeschooling my kids for 2 years now and we typically converse with friends with kids and other homeschooler families. I get it that we miss a lot of the trends kids go through because we aren't around it.

This afternoon one of my 9 year old daughters was outside playing with one of her little brothers. A kid who she'd met in public school that lives 2 blocks away road up on his bike and started cursing at her and my son right in front of me. He dropped the F bomb, a several other choice words. The thing is, we have been so nice to this kid. True, we havent seen him all winter- but last summer and fall he'd ride his bike over and often eat dinner with our family when we'd grill out. So I say to this kid "HEY, YOU need to watch your language or I am calling your MOM"- he goes, "I dont give a f***, call her!" (he is NINE by the way)So, I get the gets up to call her. She isnt home but her husband is so I calmly tell him what just had happened and he says, "its not like the kids havent heard those words before." I go, "Well I just thought you'd want to know he was saying those things" and his Dad hung up on me.

So. I told a friend about it and she said it happens ALL THE TIME. She said her 11 year old son did something similar and she grounded him and that the kids in her neighborhood do things like that often. 

I am in shock. Is it really so common for 9, 10 11 year old kids to be using this kind of language!? I admit, when I was like 12 or 13 I remember thinking it was cool to say certain curse words but ONLY around my friends and never EVER to an adult.

My friend said since we homeschool, its likely we are just out of touch with certain realities. I'm like, seriously!? seriously!? I guess its one thing I'm glad I'm out of touch with if it really is a reality- because thats just craziness to me.

So, is it so common to hear that language these days out of the mouths of tweens?!

Mama to my 8 little monkeys <3


by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 10:59 PM
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Allisonc7910
by Allison on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:03 AM
The dad was an idiot. Yes I would be upset if my 9 yo said that and she goes to public school.
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Allisonc7910
by Allison on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:04 AM
Yikes

Quoting norwgnwood:

I've been cussed out by 6 year olds but that comes with my line of work...
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MamaCarterof5
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:51 AM


Quoting partingwhisper:

kids at that age using that language is not acceptable in any way. but since you homeschool do you at least set up social activities with other homeschooling families so your kids can get some socialization in outside the home?

Yes. Weekly. They go to homeschooling day events which is generally the same group of people that meet up. Also- they take gymnastics/swimming etc. 

Mama to my 8 little monkeys <3


partingwhisper
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:52 AM

that is awesome. I wish i had the education and patience to homeschool. 


Quoting MamaCarterof5:


Quoting partingwhisper:

kids at that age using that language is not acceptable in any way. but since you homeschool do you at least set up social activities with other homeschooling families so your kids can get some socialization in outside the home?

Yes. Weekly. They go to homeschooling day events which is generally the same group of people that meet up. Also- they take gymnastics/swimming etc. 



ColieO
by I Rock on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:53 AM
If you got pregnant at 12 and are 25 now, how do you have a16 year old?

Quoting jojo_star:


Quoting MamaCarterof5:


Quoting jojo_star:

My children are 11, 14, 15, and 16. I'm sure they curse occasionally, but they know better than to swear at home, or anywhere in front of my husband or myself. They were raised to be respectful of others, and they are. And my children go to public school. But, it is normal to hear that kind of language. Our 6 year old neighbor girl has told her dog to F*** off when he was chasing her in the yard. 

Geez, that is just crazy to me!? 

Bad parenting? I mean, who do you blame that on? The kids? What kind of 6 year old says F off!?

It is crazy. I have to say, I was speechless! I think it's a combination of things, mainly bad parenting, but also just lack of parenting, and the kind of material children are allowed to watch these days. In my experience, and maybe I'm just old fashioned, though since I'm 25, I don't think that's it, but it seems like parents are just so lax in nearly every respect of parenting. It breaks my heart for the kids, because they are the ones that suffer. 

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Mamamanic
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:54 AM

My neighbor decided to rent out their house. We were excited to have a girl next door that was oldest dd's age. They had terrible potty mouths. even if my kids heard it, they sure as hell did not repeat it. Neadless to say my 3 yr old (youngest) was calling them a b*** back and they eventually had to stop haning out. The parents really did nothing or cared,. They even screemed at my husband when he said to them "the kids left our back gate open". There are some weird people out there, just saying. 

paknari
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:54 AM
Its not common for the parents no to care! I swore st that age but not around anyone who would get me caught.
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countrymomma81
by Belle*of*the*Bayou on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:56 AM

I have a 10 year old that I'm sure uses swear words when I'm not around because he's slipped in front of me before. It's nothing I condone and he knew immediately that he was on my bad side by the way he reacted. 

I'm 31 and I still don't swear in front of my mom or grandma. I don't know why, I just don't. 

Mamamanic
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:59 AM

My oldest was only 6 at the time. Their family had 2 teenage boys, 1 boy who was around 9-10 and the youngest girl who was also 6. We were nothing but nice to them and they where just fake nasty people. Our neighborhood is very pretentious and I even had other moms calling me for their mom's number because they were so inappropriate. 

Quoting Mamamanic:

My neighbor decided to rent out their house. We were excited to have a girl next door that was oldest dd's age. They had terrible potty mouths. even if my kids heard it, they sure as hell did not repeat it. Neadless to say my 3 yr old (youngest) was calling them a b*** back and they eventually had to stop haning out. The parents really did nothing or cared,. They even screemed at my husband when he said to them "the kids left our back gate open". There are some weird people out there, just saying. 


BluePandaDreams
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 3:22 AM
My daughter is 20. If she cussed someone out for no apparent reason, I would ask what set her off, because that is not a behavior pattern normal for her.
Quoting ditsyjo:

 so it's ok with you for your child to cuss out an adult for no reason...  seriously?


 




Quoting BluePandaDreams:

My daughter cusses. I taught her that there are other ways to communicate with people she isn't close friends with and she would get better respect from others if she left out the colorful language. And frankly, I would have hung up on you to, if you had called me about my child's coarse language.



 

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