Is it right for me to be hurt and angry?
The main source is my parents. Every year they have baskets and an egg hunt for my kids. It wasn't always like this because we have had our share of problems and a couple years we didn't even speak to each other. But the past few years it has been regular holidays with them. They have been much more fair to my SD, not completely equal to her and my DS but I know they are trying. They had a weird bond with my DS that I have limited in recent years bc they can't seem to find the line between parent and grandparent. But they are finding it with my boundaries and I thought things were going ok.
My brothers gf had a baby in February and he was very early. My parents have totally taken over since my brother and the gf have hardly any involvement with the baby, he is still in the nicu but they don't visit long, and the gf doesn't work so she really has no excuse to only be there for an hour a day. Any time they are there, my parents are there as well (I honestly think my parents would be there more but they cant go in without my brother or the gf). My brother and gf live with my parents and my parents do everything for them, I mean including their laundry and cooking their meals. It's ridiculous.
Anyway...my parents did not invite us over for Easter at all this year. A couple weeks ago I was at the hospital visiting (which makes my mom mad because it takes away her time since only one of us can go in at a time with the parents) and my brother told me he got my kids something for Easter. So my thinking was they would ask us to come early today so they could do stuff with the kids then head to the hospital. And I thought I would stop by the hospital as well for a quick visit. But I have heard nothing from any of them! My kids have been asking for days if we were invited over yet. And this morning the disappointment on DSs face when I said I still hadn't heard from them just broke my heart :(.
I am sick of being the only one to reach out first every single time. It's exhausting and disappointing. But then my moms birthday is coming up and I will have to at least text her (that's what I get on my bday, a text from each parent). I am just disappointed and sad.
And then the icing on the cake of my life...today marks a biblical year (is that such a thing?) since my SD has heard from her mother :(. Last Easter was the last conversation they had. And since then, her mother has moved, changed her phone number, and had a child, that SD doesn't know about. I am so sad for her. At least we can share having sucky moms.