Really need some "step parenting" advice
Hello, My name is Jenny. I am the mother to a wonderful almost 3 year old DD. I have been dating my BF for over 1 1/2 yrs. We live together and are very happy.
The issue, His 12 y/o daughter resents the fact that we are together.
The background, BF has 2 kids, 12 y/o dd and 10 y/o ds. BF was single for over 4 years after splitting with bio mom. So the children never really had any "other woman" in their dads life. When i came along ds and i got along very well. DD was another story. She used to lock herself in the bathroom screaming if she saw me and BF holding hands. She has since stopped that behavior and is now more subtle.
She hates that I am with her father. She is rude and just plain out mean to me sometimes.
IE: she walks in the house and when i say hello she will brush past me without a word other then a very annoyed sigh.
If BF and I are talking and having a fun conversation, as in laughing etc, she will throw a fit and run to her room slamming the door.
I sometimes get totally ignored when i talk to her.
When tucking the kids in at bed time, i get wonderful hugs and kisses from his DS, and nothing from DD.
I do not view myself as an evil stepmother, I try to treat them with as much respect as i would like to get in return.
I just really need help in getting through to his DD. I would so desperatly like for us to have a good relationship. Or at the VERY least her treat me like a human.
I feel like an intruder in my own home on the weekends when she is here. And I feel that she does not want to come around anymore.
I do not want to be the reason there is a rift between BF and his DD, but i cant take being treated like a doormat.
any advice is welcome