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Having Mom's Day Out feeling guilty

Posted by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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I'm typing this on my phone so this will be pretty quick. I have an 18 month old toddler and have been married 2.5 years. Husband and I fight a lot and I feel he doesn't do his fair share of the child care. I work full time, but when I'm not working, I'm with our daughter. Maybe 1-2 times a month I'll leave her with her dad for an hour while I meet a friend for coffee or my bible study group. Sometimes I just bring her with though. I have been home alone for maybe 10 total hours in the last 18 months, and 8 of those were when I stayed home sick and my daughter went to daycare. We have no family in state to watch her, so date nights happen maybe once every other month when my parents come visit.

OK, so I've planned a mini vacation for myself. I am driving to a town 90 miles away (the town holds a lot of nostalgia for me) and spending the day there. I am getting a hotel room although I am not staying overnight. I will use it for the pool and hot tub and maybe to take a nap. Including driving time, I think I will be gone 10-12 hours.

My problem is I feel guilty. I feel guilty spending $70 for a room I will only be using a few hours. (Although my husband just spent that at a casino last week). I feel guilty that I work full time, only get 2 full days a week with my kid, and I'll be leaving her. I feel guilty about how excited I am to spend the day alone. I worry that she'll miss me and I know I will miss her.

Can anyone relate?
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funhappymom
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:40 AM

I'd be more concerned if you weren't feeling guilty. I feel guilty all the time when I leave the kids but I know that I need that time away to gain my sanity, lol


Seagodess
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 11:35 AM

You are not doing anything to feel guilty about. You need time away. Every parent does. Go enjoy yourself. It will help you destress.

bamababe1975
by Stephanie on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:20 PM

 It's normal to feel guilty that you're off doing something for yourself but you shouldn't. You work hard as a mom and you deserve that time. Your baby will be in good hands while you're away so try to relax and enjoy yourself. :)


Reina13
by Gold Member on Apr. 5, 2013 at 11:47 AM

I understand feeling guilty, but you are a hard working mom who deserves a little bit of 'me' time. I hope you are able to relax and enjoy yourself.



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coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Apr. 5, 2013 at 11:50 AM
A happy mom is a good mom...you deserve and need time to regroup. She'll be fine. Have fun!
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Catcherryesux
by on Apr. 5, 2013 at 3:45 PM
Thanks for the advice. However my husband just texted me that he has to work tomorrow. So my day just got cancelled.
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