Is it ok to punish all the girl in a class for a few misbehaving? UPDATE IN BLUE
Update: Because this post is getting new replies, I wanted to update. Yes my husband and I called the school. My daughter had serious issues involving bullying last year. I have zero tolerance for it. We spoke with the school about this situation and I expressed my concern that, if the teacher knew who the trouble makers were (and she did) then she should handle those students accordingly. If she intended to send a message and take this opportunity to teach something about behavior and the effects on bullying, she could of have the entire class participate, not just the girls. It has been 3 weeks since I have made this post, and still the same issues are going on. So obviously her method of having them miss a few recesses did not work.
Like I said, last year there were major issues. We spoke with the her teacher, and Principal many times last year over some of the hurtful things other children were saying and doing. Nothing was done until the bullying esculated and became physical. A group of students (boys and girls) chased our daughter on the playground. The playground has a lot of old oak trees with big roots everywhere. She tripped several times, getting scraped and bruised. Yelled for them to leave her alone. When she ran up to the teacher and told her what happened, she scolded the kids and left it alone. Our daughter was starting to fail. When she should of been focusing on her school work, she would think of where she can hide while at recess. It took my husband and I threatening police and legal action to get things to stop. This seriously hurt her self esteem and we have been working hard on rebuilding it.
When she gets punished for something (even just pointing out something she did is wrong) she gets extremely emotional and depressed. The teacher making the girls sit out (punishing them) made my daughter feel awful even though she knows, and the teacher knows, she didn't do anything wrong. She thinks there must of been something wrong if her teacher made them sit out too.
This may not seem like a big issue to some of you, that is fine but it is to us.
My daughter came home today and told us that her teacher made all the girls in the class sit out for recess because some of the girls in the class were arguing. (over whether they were friends or not) The argument did not involve all the girls. My daughter told her teacher she wasn't part of the fight, the teacher said she knows she wasn't but ''don't worry about it''. Am I wrong to be upset and want an explanation as to why only the girls in the class were punished? Apparently this issue has been ongoing in the class and the teacher was frustrated. If this was an ongoing issue I would think the teacher would notify parents and ask us all to talk to our children in order to solve the issue. I do not see how punishing the girls that weren't a part of the arguing going to make them feel very friendly to the ones causing the issue and making them sit out. I tried calling the school but no answer. I plan on calling Monday morning. Is it okay to just punish the girls or just punish the boys?