I'm quite new to the site but not to being a step mom. Which I technically am not,yet. I've been with my boyfriend going on 5 years now. When I met him my SD was 2 years old. She is now 7. I have raised her these past 5 years as I raised my own children. My biggest frustration is her BM. Yes, she sees my SD . 6 hours a week and every other weekend. I stopped working about 11/2 years ago to be home for my SD. I have done the job that her BM is supposed to do. School, Doctor's appointments ( the Dr. Office has put me down as a parent because I am the one that brings her all the time) etc. All the things that custodial step moms do. The BM calls me nasty names, tells me I'm not my SD's mother and to quit trying to act like I am. But in the same breathe tells me she can't take her to the doctors for whatever reason ... There is always one. Or do any of the things that need to be done for her everyday. Its always someone elses fault as to why she doesnt spend more time witn her . I'm tired and angry and just fed up!!!!!
My latest issue came when we allowed the BM to take my SD to California with her to visit family.. It's important that my SD knows her Mom's family. Anyway, I am not away from my SD for more then a day at a time. She is with me more then she is with either of parents so being a parent I want to talk to her everyday while she is away.. Her BM refuses to answer my calls. She has instead , at first, sent me text messages about how she isn't going to answer my calls and it's her vacation and she doesn't have to deal with me... Now she just refuses to answer for me. She will answer the phone for my BF which is great but he works crazy hours and isn't always home or available when myself or my other daughter would like to speak to her!! I am at my wits end with the childish nonsense from the BM. Sorry for the long rant and my rambling... I have so much going through my head with the whole situation it hard to figure out what I want to say..I could go on for days