See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
So I overheard DH talking to BIL yesterday. From what I gather, BIL will not be able to pay for our gas to visit him as planned. Ok, not too big of a deal. But after waiting a few hours for DH to tell me what was going on, I finally asked. Apparently BIL "lost" $300 at the casino and won't be able to afford the gas money he promised us. I put lost in quotations cause this is the second time he has promised to foot the bill for gas and couldn't. The first time, he actually said he spent it at the casino, this time he says it fell out of his pocket. DH is giving him the benefit of the doubt, which totally irks me. I call BS. As a former gamblaholic myself, I know lies to cover your addiction when I hear them. And what really pisses me off, is DH knows and has told his brother that he has a problem. I've been in the room when he has said it over the phone and face to face, and DH is completely blunt about it. Tells him "Christian, you gotta stay away from the casino!" So, I told DH that I don't think Christian just dropped the money. I think he dropped it right into the slot machines. This made him upset, he said Christian wouldn't lie. WHAT??? He's your BIG brother, of course he will lie. He has a gambling problem, of course he will lie. And if it's so easy for him to feel his brother wouldn't lie, then why am I still considered a liar? My gambling problems are way past me, 6 years to be exact and I still get treated like I'm trying to hide something. Pisses me off so much, cause I was given an ultimatum, either get help or lose DH. Well, I made my choice, my marriage was more important, so I got help. I don't even think about gambling now. In fact, the last time we visited BIL, he suggested going to the casino and I blew him off saying we couldn't afford to lose the money. I guess I'm just really hurt cause DH thinks BIL won't lie to cover his addiction, and I'm so far away from ever being addicted again and still being treated like I'm lying,
Am I being unreasonable? Should I just get over it? How would any of you ladies feel?
EDIT...... For those of you missing the point. This is not a post on my financial status or whether my BIL has to pay us to come visit. We are financially stable, and do not need to be paid to visit anyone. The fact is, he asked us to come visit twice and offered to pay for the gas both times. We would have gone regardless since we were invited. But when someone offers to do something and then doesn't, that is rude. The last time I even said, if it was going to hurt him financially to not worry about it. But he insisted, then told us he couldn't do it and borrowed money from us when we got there. The point of my rant is how DH treats his brother who is a very obvious gamblaholic, as if nothing is wrong. And me, his wife as if I'm still gambling. I go to work and come home, when we go out it is always together. It doesn't have to be that way, but that is what we choose. He is with me 24/7 unless I'm working. And since the paychecks keep coming in and are the same amount every 2 weeks, he has no reason to question there. My point is I no longer gamble and DH knows it, but I am treated as if I am, and it just sucks.