What do you think? Should he have moved on BEFORE she dies?
en CBS News Correspondent Barry Petersen married the love of his life twenty-five years ago, he never thought his vow, “until death do us part,” would have an expiration date. But Early Onset Alzheimer's claimed Jan Petersen, Barry’s beautiful wife, at 55, leaving her unable to remember Barry or their life together.
The above is a small description of a book and true story of a husband, whose wife was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's disease at 55. There have been commercials showing an interview with this man about his story and his wife and how he has found "love" with another woman, who helps him take care of his wife.
I have taken care of ALOT of patients with this disease and so far have buried two people in my own family who had it. I KNOW about this disease. More than I should.
I have had patients whose spouses have significant others on the side. Some keep them hidden, some have the relationship in the open to family and friends and will have this person around the one who is sick. I have litterally heard the words........"They dont know who I am, so they don't know what I am doing or who this person is."
I must say, just from my own experience, The person who is sick DOES know, on some level, deep in their heart. I am convinced of it. I know for a fact my MIL knew me even at the end. I honestly would be heartbroken if I had it and my husband moved on. I feel I would know deep down. I would have a sense of it. Some argue with me that I do not know this for a fact. That's okay, cause I know I do know it. I am committed to my husband, fully. Since this runs in his family, there is a great chance of him developing the disease as well. I WILL NOT move on while he is alive. I will care for him, love him and go through it with him.
Don't get me wrong. I understand why a spouse moves on. I feel for them. I understand the loneliness they must feel. I smile, touch their hand. I really do understand, but I dont approve. I dont say that to them tho.
Do you think a person should be committed fully or do you think they have the right to "move on" like this?